Post # 1
This isnt a huge issue i know. but i went to show my Future Mother-In-Law Future Sister-In-Law and sister my wedding dress a few weeks ago and they all took photos. My mum couldnt come because i live in mexico and she lives in England (my sister was visiting for two weeks but back home now)
i asked 2 weeks ago for my sister and Future Mother-In-Law to send me the photos…they both said they would but didnt. To be fair, my sister didnt have wireless access at home but my Future Mother-In-Law was emailing me from her phone – surely all she had to do was attach the photos from the phone to the emails she sent me? (or is it more complex, i dont know?)
Ten minutes ago my sister told me she showed my mother pictures on the phone when they met up today. And maybe its childish but i really wanted to send the pics to my mum during a skype conversation – and have a kind of bonding/special moment. and i feel like its been stolen from me!
As i mentioned in another thread my mum hasnt been all that interested in wedding talk…but i thought shed be excited by the dress. and she was, just not with me.
so im frustrated they didnt just send the photos when i asked them to and im frustrated that my mum saw them with my sister. im a bit hormonal at the moment so maybe thats why i feel wretchedly disappointed
am i being silly?!
Post # 3
You’re not being silly…but my guess is your sister probably didn’t even think this might offend you, so don’t be upset with her, necessarily.
Besides, seeing you all done up on the day of in person is totally different, and to me is really the moment that counts 🙂
Post # 4
No, that’s not silly at all! Having that moment with your Mom was something you were looking forward to and having it taken away (however innocently by others just not thinking it through) really sucks. I’m sorry, OP. 🙁
Post # 5
It was thoughtless of your sister. You have every right to your feelings.
Post # 6
i do know it wasnt an intentional attempt to upset me – apparently my mum asked to see the photos so my sister showed them. i sent my sister a message via fb asking her not to show them but she didnt see it in time (due to time difference it arrived middle of night english time and she didnt see it before she met my mum)
I had to end the conversation with my sister (not in a bad way, saying i was starving and had to make lunch) so i could rein in my feelings and not say anything that would make it seem like im having a go at her
Post # 7
I think maybe a little silly – however your feelings are real.
If you had communicated to your sister that YOU wanted to be the first to share the photos with your mom because you wanted that special bonding moment, them I’m sure she could have sent them and not showed your mom. Communication! I don’t think it’s something I would have thought of on my own (to not show mom) though if you were my sister.
Post # 8
You’re not being silly. Those photos were not anyone’s to share but yours.
Post # 10
That is very unfortunate, although I am sure if your sister had seen the message in time, she’d have respected your wishes. I can certainly understand why you are disappointed. I am sure you will feel better about it in a few days. And as sara_tiara said, it’s how you look when you wear your dress on your actual wedding day that the REAL magic happens, and I am sure your mum will share that with you.
Post # 11
Your sister was thoughtless, but it doesn’t sound like it was intentional or malicious. I think you did a good thing reining in your conversation and cutting out before you got emotional and hard on her. You’d have regretted doing it. It’s a really unfortunate thing – and piled on top of your sadness about your mom not seeming excited anyway, it’s even yuckier. But this is a blip. Call your mom and say “Sis told me you liked the pics of my dress! What did you think of the <feature>?”
All will be well :o)
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s silly — that moment with mom could have been really special! But I second sweetcrackers:
skype your mom now and look at more pictures of it together!
Post # 13
Yes i definitely would have regretted saying anything negative to my sister! This forum is really helpful, and writing out how i felt made it easier to get over it – having a day just to ‘feel my feelings’ so to speak made me feel a lot better.
I tried to skype my mum but seems she wasnt home, so i will try and catch her tomorrow! im hoping i do get the photos eventually though, i feel like im starting to forget how the dress looks!
Thanks for all the comments, i really appreciate it 🙂
Post # 14
I’m sorry you didn’t get a chance to show your mom. That was something you should have had.
For the next time you have something you want to show your mom, like flowers or favors or headpiece or something, just be sure to pack a little camera yourself and if you can’t take the pic, have the person with you take it with your camera.
Post # 16
Yes ill definitely remember next time! 🙂