(Closed) really stupid vent – but im so disapointed!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re not being silly…but my guess is your sister probably didn’t even think this might offend you, so don’t be upset with her, necessarily.

Besides, seeing you all done up on the day of in person is totally different, and to me is really the moment that counts ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee

No, that’s not silly at all! Having that moment with your Mom was something you were looking forward to and having it taken away (however innocently by others just not thinking it through) really sucks. I’m sorry, OP. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 5
46404 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It was thoughtless of your sister. You have every right to your feelings.

Post # 7
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think maybe a little silly – however your feelings are real.

If you had communicated to your sister that YOU wanted to be the first to share the photos with your mom because you wanted that special bonding moment, them I’m sure she could have sent them and not showed your mom.  Communication!  I don’t think it’s something I would have thought of on my own (to not show mom) though if you were my sister.

Post # 8
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re not being silly. Those photos were not anyone’s to share but yours. 

Post # 9
3303 posts
Sugar bee

I am sorry she did that. 

Post # 10
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is very unfortunate, although I am sure if your sister had seen the message in time, she’d have respected your wishes. I can certainly understand why you are disappointed. I am sure you will feel better about it in a few days. And as sara_tiara said, it’s how you look when you wear your dress on your actual wedding day that the REAL magic happens, and I am sure your mum will share that with you.

Post # 11
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Your sister was thoughtless, but it doesn’t sound like it was intentional or malicious. I think you did a good thing reining in your conversation and cutting out before you got emotional and hard on her. You’d have regretted doing it. It’s a really unfortunate thing – and piled on top of your sadness about your mom not seeming excited anyway, it’s even yuckier. But this is a blip. Call your mom and say “Sis told me you liked the pics of my dress! What did you think of the <feature>?” 

All will be well :o) 

Post # 12
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think it’s silly — that moment with mom could have been really special! But I second sweetcrackers:  skype your mom now and look at more pictures of it together!

Post # 14
206 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry you didn’t get a chance to show your mom. That was something you should have had.

For the next time you have something you want to show your mom, like flowers or favors or headpiece or something, just be sure to pack a little camera yourself and if you can’t take the pic, have the person with you take it with your camera.


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