(Closed) Really tired of the whole it must be a party to be a good wedding

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is exactly why I do not like that show. I’ve never understood how someone (especially brides) can “rate” someone else’s wedding. One isn’t better than another! Each bride plans her wedding the way she envisions it! Certain things that are important and special to her (and the groom, of course) may not be special to another couple. While your wedding may not be my “cup of tea” if you will 🙂 I would never put it down. It’s what YOU want and that’s what matters. 🙂 

Post # 34
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@mrsrigsby60:  I’m just saying people’s opinions seem to be distressing for you, maybe it wouldn’t be a bad plan to just take a short break, relax, regroup? I don’t think any Bee likes to see someone so upset over other people’s opinions.

Post # 37
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@mrsrigsby60:  I guess it turned into this because you were referencing your own wedding as well, but either way good luck to you! I’m sure it will be great.

Post # 39
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrsrigsby60:  Yeah but just because you have alcohol at your wedding, doesn’t mean it is a club like atmosphere.  Alcohol doesn’t always mean people getting out of control drunk at your reception. It is your wedding, and while you should think of your guests, I don’t think anyone is saying you have to do so at the point of making yourself miserable. 


Post # 41
3683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Your wedding sounds wonderful!  It’s what I would have wanted if mine hadn’t been so intimate (the only guests were our parents).

Post # 43
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My wedding was different than most as well – and everyone complimented us on how much fun they had!  We had a morning wedding followed by brunch.  We did have wine, champagne, mimosas, and bloody marys. We didn’t have any music other than what was piped through the hotel system, and no special entrances, dances, or anything like that.  I actually HATE that type of atmosphere where the DJ announces the couple like it’s Monday Night Football or something.  And my H would pretty much rather die than dance 😉

Anyway, we had a great time, and everyone got to talk and mingle and eat and drink. We had great food, great drinks an outdoor terrace for everyone to enjoy, and delicious cake.  The cake cutting was about the only “traditional” thing we did.  Oh – we did have toasts from the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor and a welcome speech from my dad, but that’s it.

Post # 45
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think your wedding sounds wonderful! I am in my 20’s and I am sure both my fiance and I would enjoy going to it. It sounds very classy. I’m sure with the timing of the reception that most people would not expect alcohol to be served. 

My wedding will be somewhat like yours. We are getting married near Zion National Park at a large vacation rental home. 50 family members and close friends will be in attendance. We will have short ceremony at about 11am and a light buffet style luncheon afterward. I assume we will have a limited amount of beer or wine available along with plenty of bottled water and a nice punch or lemonade. No dancing, just socializing and some Jack Johnson or classical music playing in the background. Later we will all go hiking (we’re outdoorsy) and explore the local area.  That night we will have a dinner cooked by the family and hang out around the fire pit. 

My fiance and I aren’t the club-hopping get smashed type either. We’re more like you, getting excited over symphonies rather than rock concerts. 

It’s refreshing to see you go off the beaten path and to have a wedding that reflects you and your future hubby. Your guests are just that – guests. They are there to support you and  help you celebrate in whatever way you choose.  Congrats and good luck! 


Post # 46
650 posts
Busy bee

Every one has their own sense of syle and some people like a festive  reception party while others prefer a more serene affair. It’s really up to the individual couple.

For mine I plan to have a morning ceremony followed by a beach hotel reception. The meal will be served buffet style with a wide array of breakfast food choices, tea coffee and juices.

It wont be a party type reception as I believe that’s more suitable for evening and night receptions, but we might consider doing our first dance and having champagne and wine to toast.

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