- 4 weeks ago
Man dating is hard. I posted on here a long time ago with how I went through a very difficult breakup, its taken me a long time to get out of the “how did he find someone while WITH me and im still single mentality” and Ive finally graduated from ultrasound school and will have time to date. So I went on two dates 2 weeks ago, the first date I didnt feel to much, the second blew me out of the water. He was so attractive, an amaxzing conversationalist and I havent been that excited about a guy in a while. He told me on the date that he was looking for something more, he had deleted his tinder cause it wasnt working for him, and that he had in the past, some girls get mad at him for being a poor texter. He said hes not glued to his phone etc, likes to be present and engaged in the moment. Which I thought was very attractive.
The date was fri, didnt hear from him all weekend last week and then I texted him monday. He suggested we go snowboarding together soon. I took this as a positive, I mean i think i was very obvious that i was into him, I couldnt read him at all so that was my go to. Well…he was very random and wishy washy about textig..and I should have followed my gut, but I didnt want to give up so easily on the first date Ive been on in ages where I legit felt something, or a spark. I continued to persue it and we made plans to go to this xmas light show, which is tonight. He agreed to go, I paid for the ticket and I even texted him last night to reconfirm and he said all good.
I get a text at work today saying “Sorry cant make it, whats your email I will send you a money transfer so your not put out.” I was hurt, not gonna lie, and very dissapointed..because i had a gut feeling and was really hoping I wasnt right. I wrote back my email and then stated that its obvious hes not interested, WHICH is fine, and that i hoped he had a good xmas. he again wrote, “yes, im sorry i wasted your time, all the best”. I mean AT LEAST he paid me for the ticket.,,,but what a shit thing to do. He could have said something yesterday…or told me RIGHT AFTER THE DATE that he wasnt interested, instead of asking me about snowboarding or agreeing to this. I just feel really disheartened, and am really trying to not take it too personally. I know dating is never easy and im trying not to fall down the worm hole of self doubt…wondering if i said something on the date wrong..if i wasnt what my pictures looked like..etc.
Im also trying not to compare it to how easy it was for my ex…because then my self confidence goes even further into a nose dive. Ughh someone tell me it gets better….i guess if someone is really into u they will text u, I just feel like he made a fool of me as I took him being honest about not being a big texter as a way to give him the benefit of the doubt.