(Closed) Really upset.

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry you have to give up your dog.  I have never had to deal with that but I agree with your decision that you can’t have a dog like that around children.

Post # 4
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

My Rottie was not a kid-friendly dog.  I decided to pay a trainer for private training.  It was worth the money just to know that she wouldn’t end up euthanized in a shelter.  She had a very happy and fulfilling life.  I would urge you to consider hiring a trainer.  It’s not fair to pawn your dog’s problems off on another owner…

Post # 5
2681 posts
Sugar bee

Im so sorry to hear this!  Is it still an option to get a private trainer to see if her bad habits can be broken?  I agree if your dog bites you shouldnt have her around your kids but if you can break this habit before it becomes a bigger problem then Id try it.

Post # 6
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That is tough, but if she cannot be trained, I think you are doing the right thing.  Try to find a good home for her, and if you have to give her to a shelter, make sure it is a no-kill shelter.  Also, you have to be honest about her past to the new owners or else she could end up in a worse situation. 

We had a dog that we eventually had to put down b/c he constantly bit my brother (he was a toddler at the time, I was a teenager).  No one would take him b/c he was old and he would sort of bite and growl for no reason….  I guess I’m just telling you this b/c I know how hard it is and I really feel for you. 

Especially with bigger dogs, like labs, you can’t take the risk that they’ll bite your children.

Post # 7
4465 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with above posters that if you have the patience and money for it, I would try a trainer first and keep the dog away from children in the meantime.  I would get a muzzle for it to wear when it walks on the street. 

I do not wish to be a Debbie Downer, but I volunteer at a kill shelter, and if an animal has a bite history, it’s likely to be put down with zero chance of being adopted. 

Post # 8
38 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry to hear you are having to make this decision, but I agree with what you have decided as a couple and I hope you can feel better about it with all the agreement you are getting here.  You simply cannot trust her and you know this by experience.  A trainer would be nice, but in reality a trainer probably won’t change her propensity to protect and/or be aggressive. It’s best to find her a happy home while she is still young and it will be  easier.  

Post # 9
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry to hear that. My parents put their doberman down because he a) bit a gardener on the butt and b) tried to eat me through glass doors. Down he went =(

Post # 11
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think the trainer is a good idea, too! If you can all remain in the same place, that is the best situation. A word of caution, though- even with great training, you probably won’t ever want to leave your dog unsupervised with children who are rambunctious or very young (or most children). I feel this way even for well-trained dogs or dogs who love kids (like my own). Its simply too easy for a dog-child miscommunication to occur, and for either the dog or the child to get hurt!

Post # 13
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We have a 3 1/2 year old black lab mix whom we adopted almost two years ago. She was in the shelter b/c she beat-up a dog pretty bad. She is fear aggressive towards other dogs. We have trained in obedience classes off and on since we adopted her and her aggression has subsided some, but it is still there. We can’t go to dog parks b/c she will pick fights. Fiance is very concerned how she will act around kids, since we don’t have any and none of our friends do, it is hard to predict her behavior. Fiance decided, though, that if she does bite a child, she must go down. I am a bit uneasy about that black and white decision, but I have read stories about dogs disfiguring children’s faces and bodies and it scares me to death. 

I am so sorry you are going through this! I wish you the best and if you decide to go with the trainer, I hope it all turns out well! 

Post # 14
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry you are in this hard situation. Pets are part of the family and this must be a hard decision 🙁 My old boss had a dog that she and her husband had rescued from a high kill shelter. She was very possessive and protective of her owners. They had a baby and the first day they brought the baby home the dog was leaping into the air and snapping at her. So they had to give her away (I dont remember if they gave her away or put her down)the day they brought the baby home which made it a kind of bittersweet day…No matter what actions you take you are wise to be handling the situation now instead of when you have kids. It would be so much harder then. 

Post # 15
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am glad you are going to get a trainer. From the situation it sounded like a defensive bite and NOT an attack bit. I have grown up and trained dogs for most of my life. Watch lots of Dog Whisperer. He has lots of good advice on what to do. I would consider muzzling her in public and at social events. I also advice that you have a talk with your cousin and perhaps at a later point with the muzzle on re-introduce the dog to them. It sounds like to me (like you said above) your dog was overwhelmed and not socialized with children (which probably caused the bite). And I also agree that you have to be upfront with her bite history when you put her up for adoption even if that means she ends up put down.

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