Post # 32
Id rather have the best doctor available rather than worry about the doctors gender. All the men I have seen provided me with excellent care.
I think you’re setting yourself up for an uphill battle finding out what every doctors visit will entail ahead of time.
Post # 33
I feel liked you’re being a bit rude. It’s not what you’re saying, but how you’re saying it.
if you’re in med school, you’ll surely encounter people from all religions and cultures who will request a certain gender for care. That’s something you should get used to and learn to accomodate. I work in a very diverse area and there are many women from other countries who will refuse care from a male doctor if it’s gynecological in nature. Hospitals and doctors generally know about these cultural practices and are prepared for these requests.
And finally, I also like my doctor and she comes highly recommended, but whoever she’s hired to answer the phones is awful. I’ve had experiences with that girl over simple booking appointment-type things that would definitely make me call her brainless. Even my doctor’s yelp reviews denigrate her front desk workers. SO I totally get JaneDomani’s frustration there. I’ve been through it myself.
Post # 34
Hmmm… actually, all that went on in my first appointment was a set of questions from a nurse regarding my medical history. That was it.
The pap smear, ultrasound and lab work were scheduled for different times and at future appointments…. from what I heard from friends, that is very common. My husband was not present for those appointments, but when I did end up being admitted to LDR for contractions, he sat through two pelvic exams (first by a female and then a male) while they checked my cervix and finally sent me home. The nurses and doctors were all strangers to me, I sort of got whoever was there at the time. That was actually the first time I had a transvaginal ultrasound, the other ultrasounds were all abdominal. So…just something you should be aware of in case that happens. Not to scare you or anything…
Post # 35
Are you having your husband in the delivery room? Seriously, a transvaginal u/s is NOTHING compared to what’s going to be happening during labor. My dh and I are VERY private about bodily functions, but in the 27 hours of labor I had 5 different people shove their hand down there. I had people change my huge maxi pad and put my underwear on and my male doctor had to carry me back to bed after fainting after getting up for the first time.
Before giving birth I was extremely modest, but you get used to it pretty quickly. But ask for a female if that’s what you want and I understand where you’re coming from. Just remember, the man isn’t thinking of you in THAT way…just as a patient he’s taking care of.
Post # 36
I would feel way less comfortable laying there putting the stick in myself infront of everyone than having a professional do it. Just gives me the willies even picturing it.
Post # 37
That is not good that you got someone so unhelpful at first, but I am glad that you have talked to the office again and got some answers. I hope that your appointment goes well.
Post # 38
If it’s any consolation, I’ve had an internal ultrasound before and it really isn’t that big a deal or even that uncomfortable.
Also, they gave me the option even to insert the thing myself, if that at all makes you more comfortable (personally I let the nurse do it). And when I was there, only a nurse was present to look at the screen and I was under blankets.
Post # 39
Yeah… I did not know that was even an option…to stick it up there yourself. I learn something new everyday on the Bee.
Post # 40
@Zemerald: Please actually READ my post before getting emotional about it. I said I did NOT know if the first girl I talked to was a nurse or not. At the time, I personally didn’t think and HOPED she was not a Nurse as she was unable to answer ANY questions. Secondly it is a STANDARD visit and they should be able to tell me the standard tests that will take place. It doesn’t mean if something shows up they won’t do something else, but there are routine things every dr office goes through regarding pregnancy visits. And the lady was brainless- she didn’t even write my name down correctly, she didn’t write my questions down correctly, and she gave the Nurse the WRONG chart. The Nurse was also really upset to hear my experience and she said she was just a front desk girl, who should have just taken down my information and had someone with an education call me back! Instead she basically pretended like she was the correct person to talk to and didn’t give me any real information. The ACTUAL Nurse answered ALL my questions regarding tests without missing a beat! The only thing she had to check on is the female technician part.
Dr. Office called back and they are scheduling my sonogram with the hospital they are associated with so I can have a female technican. Which is great, but ultimately I am going to look for another practice. I’m not comfortable with the message lady (not sure its a receptionist, maybe an answering service), and I want somewhere that has a female tech in house.
I feel like I just got off an emotional roller coaster. 🙁
Anyway, I’ll add it to my new years task list.
Post # 41
@MissFireFlower: Yes, its my first. 🙂
Post # 42
Well, when the baby comes, what are the chances of there being an all female medical team? At some point there might be a dude looking at your stuff. I think its best you get used to the idea now rather than get suprised later. Just saying.
Post # 43
Honestly I didn’t realize it was standard for a tech to do the ultrasound instead of the doctor. I am a planner and I thought I was fine since I knew my doctor. Didn’t realize anyone else other than her for my check-ups would be involved. It changes how I feel about whats going on a lot. At least I know now and can ask about that too.
Post # 44
@bklynbridetobe I am having a home birth. So I would say the chances are 99% all female 🙂 I’m having a midwife. If I go to the hospital it will be because its an emergency (that’s the 1%), and I’m sure I won’t be able to think clearly enough to worry about it then. I’m a low risk pregnancy, I’m tall (which is good for vaginial births) so I don’t expect any trouble.
Post # 46
The doctors don’t really check out your vagina while doing the internal ultrasound, at least not in my experience. It’s a little uncomfortable, though. I had a very rude person at the hospital do my first one, that was traumatic only because she didn’t tell me that’s what she was about to do and she also didn’t tell me I was pregnant. For my second and third times, my SO was in the room, but there’s a sheet and everything, your husband won’t be able to actually see what’s going on.
I understand being uncomfortable with it though. My doctor joked to me through the whole pregnancy about how she didn’t understand how I even got pregnant because I felt so awkward about the pap smear/internal ultrasound/fingers in my vagina stuff.
I had a difficult pregnancy, so I had 3 uncomfortable ultrasounds and a LOT of people feeling around inside of me, mostly women but some men too, along with contraptions to hold things open and ugh. I’m not saying that will be your experience, I’m hoping not, but you do need to be prepared for any point where you may not have a say in the gender of your doctor or even how polite the people helping you are.
But you do get a choice in your practice, so definitely go with having a female tech option if that makes you feel more comfortable. And seriously, it’s so amazing that you’re doing a home birth! I’m sure that will be very comfortable considering you will probably 100% know who will be in the room with you, and their genders :p