(Closed) Really Upset About Phone Call with Dr.'s Office About 8 Week Appointment

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Id rather have the best doctor available rather than worry about the doctors gender. All the men I have seen provided me with excellent care.

I think you’re setting yourself up for an uphill battle finding out what every doctors visit will entail ahead of time.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@Zemerald:  I feel liked you’re being a bit rude.  It’s not what you’re saying, but how you’re saying it.

if you’re in med school, you’ll surely encounter people from all religions and cultures who will request a certain gender for care.  That’s something you should get used to and learn to accomodate.  I work in a very diverse area and there are many women from other countries who will refuse care from a male doctor if it’s gynecological in nature.  Hospitals and doctors generally know about these cultural practices and are prepared for these requests.

And finally, I also like my doctor and she comes highly recommended, but whoever she’s hired to answer the phones is awful.  I’ve had experiences with that girl over simple booking appointment-type things that would definitely make me call her brainless.  Even my doctor’s yelp reviews denigrate her front desk workers.  SO I totally get JaneDomani’s frustration there.  I’ve been through it myself.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hmmm… actually, all that went on in my first appointment was a set of questions from a nurse regarding my medical history. That was it.

The pap smear, ultrasound and lab work were scheduled for different times and at future appointments…. from what I heard from friends, that is very common. My husband was not present for those appointments, but when I did end up being admitted to LDR for contractions, he sat through two pelvic exams (first by a female and then a male) while they checked my cervix and finally sent me home. The nurses and doctors were all strangers to me, I sort of got whoever was there at the time. That was actually the first time I had a transvaginal ultrasound, the other ultrasounds were all abdominal. So…just something you should be aware of in case that happens. Not to scare you or anything…

 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Are you having your husband in the delivery room? Seriously, a transvaginal u/s is NOTHING compared to what’s going to be happening during labor. My dh and I are VERY private about bodily functions, but in the 27 hours of labor I had 5 different people shove their hand down there. I had people change my huge maxi pad and put my underwear on and my male doctor had to carry me back to bed after fainting after getting up for the first time.

Before giving birth I was extremely modest, but you get used to it pretty quickly. But ask for a female if that’s what you want and I understand where you’re coming from. Just remember, the man isn’t thinking of you in THAT way…just as a patient he’s taking care of.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would feel way less comfortable laying there putting the stick in myself infront of everyone than having a professional do it. Just gives me the willies even picturing it. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@JaneDomani:  That is not good that you got someone so unhelpful at first, but I am glad that you have talked to the office again and got some answers. I hope that your appointment goes well.

 

 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

If it’s any consolation, I’ve had an internal ultrasound before and it really isn’t that big a deal or even that uncomfortable.

Also, they gave me the option even to insert the thing myself, if that at all makes you more comfortable (personally I let the nurse do it). And when I was there, only a nurse was present to look at the screen and I was under blankets. 

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@meetmethere2013:  Yeah… I did not know that was even an option…to stick it up there yourself. I learn something new everyday on the Bee.

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper

Well, when the baby comes, what are the chances of there being an all female medical team? At some point there might be a dude looking at your stuff. I think its best you get used to the idea now rather than get suprised later. Just saying.

Post # 46
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Helper bee

The doctors don’t really check out your vagina while doing the internal ultrasound, at least not in my experience. It’s a little uncomfortable, though. I had a very rude person at the hospital do my first one, that was traumatic only because she didn’t tell me that’s what she was about to do and she also didn’t tell me I was pregnant. For my second and third times, my SO was in the room, but there’s a sheet and everything, your husband won’t be able to actually see what’s going on.

I understand being uncomfortable with it though. My doctor joked to me through the whole pregnancy about how she didn’t understand how I even got pregnant because I felt so awkward about the pap smear/internal ultrasound/fingers in my vagina stuff.

I had a difficult pregnancy, so I had 3 uncomfortable ultrasounds and a LOT of people feeling around inside of me, mostly women but some men too, along with contraptions to hold things open and ugh. I’m not saying that will be your experience, I’m hoping not, but you do need to be prepared for any point where you may not have a say in the gender of your doctor or even how polite the people helping you are.

But you do get a choice in your practice, so definitely go with having a female tech option if that makes you feel more comfortable. And seriously, it’s so amazing that you’re doing a home birth! I’m sure that will be very comfortable considering you will probably 100% know who will be in the room with you, and their genders :p

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