- 7 years ago
I put my dress on layaway at a consignment shop a month ago. When I tried the dress on, I was wearing my Spanx, and there was a small gap in the back (it’s a lace-up dress) where you could see the skin on my back. I have a large chest, and the dress could not fully accomodate my bust. The dress shop owner told me that she could and gladly would arrange to have a gusset put in the back, and everything would be fine. Two weeks later, she called me and asked me to come in on Sept. 1st to meet with the alterations lady about putting the gusset in. The shop owner told me she’d already taken the beading down on my dress (as per my request, I wanted the dress to be longer).
So, I went in for my appointment today. Future Mother-In-Law even got off of work early to go. When I got to the shop, the owner was not there. Instead, her bitchy alterations lady was. When I walked in, the lady looked at me like I was an alien with three heads. “Umm, are you the bride?!” I said yes, and she went and pulled my dress from the back. While I was changing into my dress, she asked my Future Mother-In-Law when the wedding was. Future Mother-In-Law told her July and the alterations lady was like, “Why is she getting alterations now?” I never requested to have my dress altered. The shop owner, who is well aware of my wedding date, insisted that I come in this early so that we could figure out the gusset thing and see how the dress looked on me after she’d moved the beading down. After all, what harm could come of adding a gusset to my gown?! It can easily be removed, if need be.
So, I came out of the dressing room already feeling discouraged. Everybody has been riding my ass, hard, about how early I’m doing stuff for my wedding. It has made me embarrassed to talk about or do anything for my wedding at all. But, anyway, so, I’d forgotten my Spanx for today’s fitting. The gap in the back was a little wider, since I wasn’t wearing the Spanx. As soon as I emerged from the dressing room, the alterations lady was like, “I don’t know what (shop owner) was thinking! That is a pretty huge gap!” Then she acted like I was nothing but a hassle and waste of her time. She spent the next five minutes humiliating me in front of everyone in the store. Just saying how she couldn’t take the dress out at the top because there would be a gap in the beading. Then, suggesting I need to start losing weight, or come back with my Spanx on. I haven’t gained any weight, at all, since the first time I tried on my dress.
Future Mother-In-Law, in effort to detract from the awkward situation, asked the alterations lady about adding sleeves to my dress and the lady made a sour face and shook her head and said, “No, I don’t do that. Maybe someone who does that could help you, all I do is alter.” She just acted like she did not want to be there and did not want to be helping me, at all. I know that once the gusset is in the dress, it will be just fine. But, the woman told me she wouldn’t even consider putting it in until May. I really would like to have it put in now so that I can continually try it on to make sure it is fitting properly.
After I was banished back to the dressing room to remove my dress (and barked at to not return until May), I noticed that the small train that USED to be on my dress was gone! The shop owner, who’d moved the beading around on my dress, had bunched the back of the dress up and sewn the beads back on in a way that pulled the train up to meet the rest of the dress. So, now, the dress is all one length. NOT what I wanted, at all! I’ve always wanted a big train. I settled for this dress having a little train. But, no train at all is just unacceptable to me! I guess because I told her I’m getting married on the beach, she took it upon herself to take the train off. I do not care about having my dress cleaned if it gets sand all over it.
To top everything off, while I was removing my train-less dress, I heard Future Mother-In-Law and the alterations lady discussing how I was going to be in pre-wedding weight loss boot camp! Future Mother-In-Law was like, we’re going to start walking in the fall, and going to stop eating greasy foods… Umm, wtf?! The dress fits me. It goes right up over my hips and tummy area just fine. I just need the gusset installed so that my skin doesn’t show through the back (because my bust size is larger than it should be for the dress size).
Ughh! Right now I’m just so upset. I’m so embarrassed and do not want to return to that dress shop for alterations. Once I pay the dress off, I hope to take it home and have someone I know add the sleeves and gusset for me. I refuse to let that woman belittle me ever again. I’m already so self-conscious, I didn’t need this at all.
Thanks for reading this.