- 5 years ago
I have been planning my wedding now or ages. It has been almost 3 years planning and the reason for this is because although we lived an exciting life it was never stable and we needed time to save up for a decent wedding.
When I say decent it still is a budget wedding at $10,000 but I have been very budget savvy and my mum has helped buy things like my dress so I’ve been able to stick to this over the years. I booked thing really early so id get the best discount possible, my wedding is on a weekday which offers many advantages. Ive been researching and researching so much. I love wedding planning and my dream would be to be an events planner one day with my own business. I love being on sites like weddingbee (regular poster gone anonymous) and have really put my heart into this wedding.
Last year lots of things happened – we had to separate and do a long distance relationship which I absolutely hate but we needed to really get money together for our lives together and this wedding and my Fiance job reduced his salary so it made sense for him to go home, work work work there, I work work work here. So for the past few months all ive been doing is working, I dont go out and I dont spend extra money. He moved in with his parents to save money and he doesnt do anything extra either.
However life has a way of happening. Him going back meant having to start afresh and in those first few month we lost a lot of money just getting back on our feet. We need money for paying off student loans, visas, a flat, the wedding, travel, me not working when I get there (because of the visa) etc etc etc …. the last straw was that his truck which he had to buy when there – the engine went – as well as another thing. To fix it would mean paying for the truck over again so we agreed that payments made sense. Another bill.
This morning I thought we have to talk about all of this and wow,, arguments arguments arguments. He says we need to cut back on the wedding now … how much more can we cut back? He asked an older man who I dont know to find us a cheaper place with no food minimum and forefeit the deposit at the place we have now. I told him id rather cancel than drag everyone to a crap wedding. We just argued and argued … we got off the phone on good terms but i am still so sad
I feel so i dont know what to do. A lot of people have booked their tickets out so cancelling is not really an option. My dress is bought and waiting and ive been dreaming of this for three years, Ive sacrificed for this for three years and now hes telling me its just not posible. I know Ive put too much into this not to be bitter and resentful if he goes any cheaper and I will hate a cheap wedding and a different venue and just be upset at the turn out of things. We could go asking for money from my family but that will damage his pride so much and no one has offered so it may be a no. More loans seem ridiculous. Im really stuck.
We have to get married as the visa is conditional on us doing so. Everything coming at once has left us in such a bad position. I dont know what to do??