(Closed) Really wanted a bigger ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 107
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh shiz… not another one of these threads. Be happy with what you have; it’s very un classy of you to voice this kind of resentment towards your ring.

Post # 109
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Bee Keeper

I’m confused. OP has said the price of her ring in pounds, therefore she must be a UK bee. I’m completely shocked that two people in her social circle would comment negatively on the size of her ring in a place where .85 carat is already much larger than what most UK bees seem to think is ideal/appropriate/desirable. 

Post # 110
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It looks great to me.

Post # 112
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well, what I don’t understand is how it is not seen as negative to completely dismiss what the post was about and basically tell someone you don’t even know they are whining and to get over themselves. I think that is very negative and unhelpful. But then, if I had an issue like this, I’d never bring it up on a board full of people I don’t know from Adam anyway. IMO, it’s a personal issue and they only people who can actually do anything about it are the OP and her Fiance. However, it has been brought up, and I at least tried to address the question, rather than post unhelpful remarks regarding the poster’s personal psychology. Mostly I just lurk here because I find that kind of attitude unfriendly and think it puts people off here.

However, I wanted to post to show the OP that there are other people out there that DON’T think it’s a sin to change your mind and that doesn’t make you a selfish shallow biatch. Ring stone size has absolutely nothing to do with that ability, I guarantee you.

Post # 113
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Bee Keeper

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@anulka:  well, I am not from the UK but I’ve been here long enough and read plenty of ring threads to know that .85 carat is quite large for UK standards. I’ve seen countless threads from UK brides about wanting a “blingy” engagement ring or wedding band but doubting the appropriateness of that choice, given that it may be seen as distasteful. But I can’t say I’ve ever seen a single thread like this from a UK bee. Interesting, for sure. 

Post # 115
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Your ring is perfect – its tiffanys ring at the end of the day! And if you compared 0.85 carat to 1 carat the size difference is minimal. Have you tried popping into tiffanys to ask them of they would be able to change the diamond for you?

Don’t forget, in the UK the average size of diamonds are less than around 0.5 and half a carat is considered a good size! Since yours is a tiffanys and its closer to 1 carat than 0.5, you can’t go wrong. However, you could always sell it and get a tiffany copy setting elsewhere with the bigger diamond or ask another jeweller to swap the tiffany diamond with a larger non tiffany diamond. This way you get to keep the real tiffany setting.

However, the diamond does look big on you – just stop worring what other people think.

Post # 116
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@BlondeMissMolly:  + 1 I live in London and my diamond is 0.3 carat. It’s pretty much the norm in my social circle 

Post # 118
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

First of all that ring is beautiful! Secondly, if you like it then thats all that should matter. 9 out of 10 times people make rude remarks or jabs are because they are jealous!!

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@anulka:  maybe you just need nicer friends?

Post # 120
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Do not worry about it! I bet your ring is sooo gorgoues! And believe me, there are tons women who would LOVE to have a Tiffany ring. You didn’t get ripped off, you got a classic, heirloom quality ring Laughing

Post # 121
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

OP- I agree with most everyone here that says your ring is GORGEOUS and looks fantastic on you. Do NOT pay any mind to those who speak negative thoughts out loud. They do it out of spite and jealousy because they either are A.) Shallow, B.) Do not have someone in their life or C.) Do not have someone who can afford such a lovely ring much less a Tiffany.

If you LOVE it that is all that matters. If you love HIM that matters more. Do not let the ignorance of others constitute what is right, proper or just in your relationship and/or jewelry EVER. All that does is breed doubt both in your relationship and in your own self-worth.

Love yourself, love your man and don’t sweat the small stuff.

I was proposed to with a ruby solitaire. So many times I had people (other than good ones) say- wow, is he cheap or what? can he not afford a diamond? why a ruby? seriously? And each time I met them with- wow- is it your hand? no? then shut up and walk away.

It wasn’t their place to correct something I love. Don’t let someone do that to you. My husband picked something that was personal, romantic and fit US. Not everyone elses expectations of tradition or what was expected.

Even my parents were like um, nice ring honey. He went a little untraditional didn’t he?

*sigh* Sometimes you have to love it enough for the world to simply fall in place!

Best of luck and congrats on being engaged!

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