- 7 years ago
I was writing this post out of curiosity, especially after feeling as if I was targeted with rude comments and not just opinions. However, I will not say that they were rude because the net or posts can sound quite mean even if they are not intended to be, so no judgment here Overall, this post is pertaining to some of my church members, friends, or family helping out the day of my wedding. As I mentioned before I will be working hard until curtain time. I will be arriving to the venue early and working hard to decorate and cook for my own wedding. However, when I say that friends and fam will be helping, it is only because they want to, I am not, how one of the bee’s said, “forcing people to work on my wedding day”. I am not sure what the customs are with most brides, but some of my fam and friends would be hurt if i did not allow them to help with something as important to me as my wedding day. My mom will even be doing lots of work because she finds it honorable. I will not be forcing work upon anyone. Only people close to me and volunteers will be helping.
I can even give you all an example, someone close to me had a wedding. My mother heard about it and was excited because she loves catering and being behind the wedding day scenes. She bought things and just knew she would be able to do it. However, she got the sad news that “this person very close to us” did not want her guests to do a thing on her wedding day. Most of you all will say that is the way to go, but my mother was so hurt because she loves helping and being over weddings.
Also, some people will help no matter what, so why not let them? Some people I know take pictures at every event, whether they are told to or not. I guess I am just used to helpful people that are like me…I am not sure. I am also surrounded by people that are not really into being served on my wedding day. I love all of my guests, but it is my wedding day and I will be working extra hard, unlike many brides, and my family and friends will be there to support me in their own way. Most of my family makes it about the wedding day couple, instead of figuring out how they can be pampered and served. I even had a party that I was hosting and found people in the kitchen washing dishes without being told to, why? Idk, they are just helpful I guess.
So finally the point, Who’s wedding is it anyway? I know what being a guest entitles, and guests do come first, so why would I have those that want to help sit down and be served unhappily? When I volunteer to help at close fam and friends weddings, I make it about the couple, and I want to be of service to them, by making their day possible and special. Does anyone have views on this, I respect honest opinions, but not rude comments when no one knows how helpful the people I am referring to are. Thanks!
* just adding this on….I will not allow anyone, even those who want to, to help the whole time, they will have special seating, and be able to enjoy themselves just like the other guests…I just want them to be happy doing what makes them happy.