(Closed) Really Who’s Wedding is it?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Honey bee

@LovelyLibra, that is excellent advice. If you don’t like the topic, don’t read it and certainly don’t respond in an attacking manner. No one is holding a gun to anyone’s head saying they must respond to every post.

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper

I always seem to be everybody’s helper too, and some times I feel flattered that they call me first. Other times, I feel taken advantage of because of the fact that when I need help, I get the shoulder shrugs and comments about how I’m ‘so good at it’ they didn’t think I wanted any help. Sometimes you can’t even shame people into helping. I’m glad I am the way I am, but….I’d also like a break on occasion. Weddings are one of those occasions.

I did 90% of the background things for my neice’s wedding and shower. I did 99% of the same for both my daughter’s big days. Each time I did what I did because I wanted to do it and loved every minute. I have to say,tho, that I was exhausted after each one, and wished I’d allowed more people to take charge while I relaxed a little and enjoyed the weddings. I allowed myself to fall into the trap of having to be in control, and not realizing that there were people around who could have eased the pressure while increasing my enjoyment. It isn’t the same when it’s somebody else’s event as it is when its your own or your children’s. I think that’s what people are trying to tell you. Even tho your Mom or friends may offer  and want to help, you may want to step back and let them just be guests for one day. I can’t imagine anyone’s feelings would be hurt by your insisting they just relax. I know I certainly wouldn’t be hurt by it.

 

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