(Closed) Really worried about a bridesmaid dress I have to wear….

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

From one curvy girl to another, let me say that half of the battle is standing up straight and walking like you own the room.  I’m sure you will look beautiful. ๐Ÿ™‚

However, if you are convinced the dress isn’t flattering, is there any way you can ask the bride id you can get an alternative?  Most of the Alfred Angelo bridesmaid dresses come in the same fabric, just in different styles, so you wouldn’t stand out at all.  An A-line cut might be most flattering. 

Post # 5
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Agree that you have to be confident!

I have to say though, the bride did no one any favors with that dress–it is only going to look good on mid-weight chicks with enough curves to fill it out, u know? Lame! ๐Ÿ™

Post # 6
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Found this in the classifieds, btw:

Post # 8
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s hard to know how it will fit you without a picture of you in it, but if you’re uncomfortable with it, I would talk to the bride about it.  Has the dress already been purchased?

If you can talk yourself into feeling confident about wearing the dress, you may feel better about wearing it.  I would talk to the bride if you’re concerned though ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

can you ask her if you can get a wider sash perhaps?  i am the same size as you and i am thinking it may fit straighter?  definitely try it on with support garments and hold your bouquet at your navel, you’ll be fine!

Post # 11
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I was in my cousin’s wedding about 2yrs ago. The dress was VERY similar to that one and in Champagne . I was so embarrassed when I saw the pictures. I looked huge. And to be honest I felt like I ruined my cousin’s picutres because I didn’t look my best for the most important day of her life. I guess I was about a 14 at that time.  You could see every lump and bump I had. If I were you I’d find something more aggressive then Spanx

Post # 12
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2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

i don’t really have any tips, but i just want to say that i’m sorry the bride was not more thoughtful in picking out dresses. it’s really not fair! maybe you’ll rock the dress better than you expect, though. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That wasn’t very considerate of the bride.. that is a tough style for anyone to pull off and champagne is not forgiving. All I can say is you mentioned a few of you are larger sizes – at least you won’t be the only one! And I actually looked pregnant in my sisters bm dress since it was an empire waist and the color was a very washed out light pink. I’m tiny but I have some hips and if I eat a regular meal I get pregnant belly afterwards! I just held the boquet in front of my stomach every time I saw the photographer.

Post # 14
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7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yikes, I feel your pain, girl.  My only advice is to have it tailored so it fits your properly and order the right size for you.  Even though it may not flatter your figure (I’m middle heavy and anything with a sash in the middle is death), if it’s in the right size, at least it won’t look wrong – meaning bunch and scrunch where it shouldn’t.  The ill-fit is what most people will ‘see’ vs. the fact that it’s a larger dress.

Spanx will help a little, I’d think – but do a trial run (sometimes with lighter colors, you can see the middle ‘line’ with spanx.  Play around with different undergarments to see what works best.

And, most of all – don’t stress!!  If you can muster up your confidence – THAT is what will shine through.  Hold your head up high and walk with pride and focus on your friend…. you’ll get through it!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… if 4 of the bridesmaids are 14-22, maybe you could talk to them and talk to the bride about finding an alternative dress? That dress is NOT flattering, and I would be really uncomfortable wearing it.

Post # 16
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

oh, the things us bridesmaids do to make our friends happy! i was recently in a wedding where i had to where a dress with my boobs hanging out. when i got to the reception i just put a wrap around me for the whole night so i wouldn’t have to worry about it! just pretend to be happy, rock the dress, and you’ll never have to wear it again.

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