(Closed) Reason for Dress Regret

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that could definitely be a reason.  Honestly, for me there are some weeks where I can’t even sign onto weddingbee because I just get overwhelmed by other bees creativity, gorgeous dresses, ideas, etc.  I have to remind myself to stick with my plan and vision because it is easy to “regret” things you have already planned/bought just by looking at the awesome things other people are doing.  Every time I see something I like on the bee, I go back to my own pictures of what I’m doing and it tends to make me feel better about my own wedding.  =)  Hope that helps a little, I am sure your dress is beautiful!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have struggled along the path as well with choosing a dress. I have a sample being made of a custom gown, a combination of two that I loved that was closer to my budget. I have also ordered a back up dress, as the salon that I was working with wanted to make sure no matter what I would have a dress that I would be happy with. Now the sample hasn’t arrived yet but the designer gown will arrive next month. I had fallen head over heels for a dress that was out of my budget to the search for the perfect gown continued. I am sure that I have driven my partner and friends crazy with the which dress should I choose. I am a very indecisive person and as soon as I think I am getting to aplace where I am comfortable and happy with my decision a wrench gets thrown into the mix.

I find it crazy to know that we are spending several hundred and sometimes thousands of dollars for some people… on a dress that we only try on once? Then we have to wait several months before we see it again. I have had dress regret and indecision right from the start. I feel anxious in the waiting and then as I browse sites and magazines for other wedding ideas and tips I come across another beautiful gown that makes me wonder … did I choose the right one?

Any tips on how to feel confident and know that it will be perfect on the day?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do hope because you have purchased it that you will find a way to feel confident and beautiful. No one else will know about the other options out there … only you will right 🙂

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have been dreaming about this dress since we were little girls, and now we have to actually commit to a dress that we will remember forever, and it will (hopefully) be the only time we ever get to pick out this magical dress we have always dreamed about.  If you ask me, no dress stands a chance against those expectations!! It doesn’t help that we have this beautiful thing called the internet where we can look at MILLIONS of beautiful dresses, and we only get to pick 1.. maybe 2.  I am surprised that not everyone has some form of dress regret, or more “dress envy”.  I look at dresses and I could pick out hundreds that I love, but I knew that I would drive myself crazy doing that.  I love the dress I chose, it’s beautiful and exactly what I wanted.  That doesn’t mean I don’t want to go buy 10 more dresses because they are all beautiful, and they all fill a different fantasy.  We only get one wedding as well, and I personally would love 10 of them!! Different themes, colors, locations, but alas we only get to pick one. So be confident in your decision, try to remember how you felt when you picked your dress, and remember, it’s just one day, and then that dress will get packed up and you’ll be a married woman!! If I had an unlimited amount of income I think I would have a wedding every 5 years, wearing a different dress, and fulfilling a different fantasy, but alas that’s not real life.  Also try to remember that you could spend the next year picking dresses and would any of them really be “perfect”, and make you not want other ones as well?  Personally I don’t think any dress could fulfill everything I have dreamed about, because there is no way to get a “ivory and white, fit and flare and mermaid and tulle ballgown, with no beading.. and then beading.. and no lace.. ohh but lace is so sophisticated.. with a train.. but no train… and strapless.. but with a dramatic strap…”

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Leanne21:  Where is the “like” button? So well said. My sister and I were saying we need to go into event planning because we both are enjoying this so much. It’s tough on a budget because I don’t really have my “dream” anything (well except the man Wink, lol). I now have two dresses I am thinking about wearing because they are both very different and something I’d never get the chance to wear again.

 

@eeruhlig:  I didn’t realize when I was responding to your other posts how long you have until your wedding. You have plenty of time to tuck all this away in the back of your mind and make a decision later. As monumentous as this decision seems, it’s not going to make or break your marriage. It’s not even going to make or break your wedding. Take a break from the planning and just enjoy being engaged!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@eeruhlig:  This is the exact same way I felt before I decided to go ahead and change my dress but the reasons why I bought another dress was because the first dress was more of a fixer-upper after I purchased it, I realized this. The dress was ripped in the back right up under the lace corset and the beading and crystals were beginning to fall off. I was so upset that I already spent almost $500 on the dress only to put more money into it. That’s when I decided it would just be cheaper to try and sell that dress and purchase a new one. I showed my Fiance and mother first. Fiance and I are paying for the wedding so I needed his financial decisions voiced into this.  He said if that’s what I want to do then do it. Then I showed my mother because the first dress I bought I purchased really without anyone being there. She LOVED the 2nd dress, not so much the first but didnt say it but I could tell she didnt like it. I’m hoping I am really in love with the 2nd dress because I dont want to have to buy a 3rd dress. I have never tried my 2nd dress on. I seen it and bought it online. It should be here by the end of this month. I have jumped the gun with everything else but I would rather have everything out the way with time to spare rather than running around stressed at the last minute. I have the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses picked out, got the venue, the officiant, the save the dates, the invites, basically everything booked except the photographer (meeting with her nxt wk), the cake baker (meeting with her on April 29th maybe) and the florist (waiting till Oct.)

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Leanne21:  very well said and thank you so much for your words of wisdom and understanding

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Lol thanks everyone! I figured it sums up how I am feeling, it’s so hard to make a wedding decision knowing it’s the only time I get to do it! But yes, like pp have said, I wouldn’t buy a dress yet if you don’t have to.  You have over a year until your wedding, take that time to try on dresses and really narrow it down, try on all different kinds!! Trust me, as soon as you order it, you will have 7 or 8 months to regret it, and I can almost assure you that whatever dress you choose, their will be a tad bit of regret/envy since there are a million others! But might as well leave it until you absolutely have to make that decision.

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