(Closed) Reason I am not mad when I dont get a address I requested anymore……

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

I remember your post about this matter and like how you have dealt with the situation. I wish I had “misplaced” some addresses so unanswered requests would have ended in lack of invites…. I wanted a smaller guest list haha. I am horrible.

Post # 5
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Good Im glad that you arent letting the little things like this get the best of your anger. Your right this will just save you money in the long run!! They will probably get back to you after they realize the rest of the family have recieved things and they feel left out. Then you can laugh lol 

Post # 6
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know that some of my friends pretty much never check their Facebook inbox, due to a barrage of messages about events, threads with 30 people in them, etc.  I know I’ve also missed messages because I’ll receive a notification that I have a new message, when I really have two, and the one that came before the one I was notified of gets pushed down for a bit.  Your message could very well be buried and they’re not deliberately avoiding it.  Is there really no other way for you to get into contact with them? 

I think Facebook messages are great for organizing casual get-togethers, or to comment on something with a friend that you wouldn’t post in public, but do you have an e-mail address or phone number (or aunts/uncles willing to chase them down)?  I understand it’s obnoxious to not hear back from people, but some people really don’t look at their Facebook messages, even though others check as respond as they would with regular e-mail.

Post # 9
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Use Google Docs and create an email form. It will work better for you because:

1) It actually uses people’s email addresses (which are usually posted on fb) and pepole generally check their email more often

2) It automatically populates into a Google Spreadsheet so you don’t have to transcribe the info a million times

3) It allows you to request specific info

 

Good luck! But don’t assume they don’t care to come because they haven’t answered. Many people rarely/never check their FB messages.

Post # 10
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why the disclaimer about your cousin not being Mexican?

I like sonj818’s Google Docs suggestion. 

Can you not call up aunts or uncles to ask for addresses? Someone in your family must have them. I can’t imagine that the drama resulting from not sending an invite because people didn’t respond to a Facebook message would be worth it, and would make you look petty. Or even post on their wall, where it’s more up front. You’re not “begging for addresses”, you’re getting crucial information to invite people to your wedding, and you’ve actually got a much easier time of it now in 2011 than in, say, 1920. You have all these communication tools at your fingertips, don’t just limit yourself to one!

Please put a space after your punctuation marks. Your typing looks crowded and is hard to follow.

Post # 12
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Earlybride: i came to the same conclusion as you. especially because for my wedding, we knew most people we invited would not come.  i did do more than email people for addresses, i would call or have our parents call if necessary.  there was an old friend of DH’s though that had invited him to their wedding so we wanted to reciprocrate. well they never replied on facebook or email and Darling Husband didnt have their phone number. so too bad so sad.  well then they replied on facebook a couple of months later and asked if it was too late to give the address.  it wasn’t – we had sent out the invite super early because we had a Destination Wedding.  so we wrote back adn told it was not too late to send an invite, so give us your address.  Well, they never wrote back! you think they would have checked facebook after finally replying!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@Earlybride: yikes, i just read your reply about your statement. and it sounds like you were reading too much into maladroite asking you why you made the disclaimer!  it sounded like an innocent question to me. your disclaimer seemed out of place and i could see why someone would ask about it because she may have thought she was missing something.

Post # 15
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Earlybride: Just in case they don’t check their facebook messages, I would send an email to follow up requesting their address.  My mom never checks her facebook messages and she doesn’t have it set up where she gets an automatic email when somebody sends her a facebook message.  Not everybody is facebook savvy.

Post # 16
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Earlybride:  well i did email Save-The-Date Cards.  and like i said, it ended up only being one person who didn’t give their address. or maybe it was two. it was not biggie, we couldnt get their address because my Darling Husband didn’t have their phone numbers or nothing so clearly he was not that close to them anyway.  with cousins maybe its different and i might talk to your aunts before giving up.

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