Post # 1
As a bridesmaid in DW- i spent ALOT of money- over 3k……
Now its time to send a card/gift- but i feel like i spent SO much money just to be apart of this wedding- and i sent a shower gift- i dont really know whats the right gift to give; or if i should just get a card.
There was alot of hurt feelings/ drama involved just being a part of this wedding but i wont get into that here.
is it acceptable to just give a card?
Post # 2
yes, and it really didn’t sound like they deserved anything more. Wish them happy and move on.
Post # 3
I don’t understand why this is even a question. If the bride was as awful as you have said she was why would you want to even keep her as a friend much less give her a gift after spending $3K to be in her wedding. Do whatever you’re comfortable with.
Post # 4
I would give a card and that is all considering the amount of money you spent and her rudeness to you all thus far.
Post # 5
I think it’s totally acceptable to give them just a card! Though, with all I’ve read about this wedding, I think the bride would be lucky to get even THAT from you!
FWIW, I’m having a Destination Wedding and I do not expect any gifts from anyone that is coming. If it were me I’d really appreciate a nice card!
Post # 6
she married my brother – thats why i feel like i should give them a card- because of him….
Post # 7
I am having a Destination Wedding though, through the Bee, I have learned that I might be one of the most laid back brides on the planet. We know what people spent to come there and we know what our bridal party spent to be part of our big day. Send a card if you just want to send a card or get a small, inexpensive, personalized gift (wedding ornament, embroidered towels, coffee mug, whatever). As a Destination Wedding couple we aren’t expecting any gifts so anything we get will be a surprise 🙂
Post # 8
Definitely send a card and nothing else. That’s more than enough.