Post # 1
My Brother-In-Law (who has two young kids under 3 years old of his own) has proposed a family trip to a ski resort about 6-7 hours away (by car) over Christmas. I am due with my first on Dec 13th, so the baby would be anywhere from 3 days to 3 weeks old at Christmas. This guy is admittedly my BEC, but before I assume he’s being inconsiderate – does this sound reasonable to you? This is my first, so I have no idea what having a newborn is like, but I kind of assumed I’d be hunkered down recovering from pushing a baby out of my vagina/trying to keep a newborn alive for a few weeks. Any already-moms have any insight?
Post # 2
Yeahhhh no that sounds like a terrible idea to me. I have a 7 month old. I would not want to be anywhere except my Own home in those first few weeks (months) and definitely wouldn’t want to be stuck with family if I felt the need to escape Etc.
Post # 3
Totally not reasonable to expect this of a new mom and a tiny infant. If your Brother-In-Law doesn’t understand why you’ll be taking a pass on this ski trip, he’s the one with the problem.
Post # 4
I am pregnant with my first so not a mommy yeat but I would say no way in HELL would I do that! that sounds like a nightmare!
Post # 5
I’m not a new mom, but when my sister had my niece, her in laws came to visit for Thanksgiving 3 weeks after she was born. My sister could barely keep it together – she was so sore and sleep deprived. I can’t imagine if she had to travel! Totally not realistic.
Post # 6
Currently pregnant with my first and due in December too, I’m not leaving my house on Christmas! (Unless I go into labour then! haha)
Not reasonable to expect this and I would not be going. If he thinks it’s reasonable my guess is that he’s forgotten what it’s like to have a newborn, or was not that involved in that stage.
Post # 7
Yeah no. There’s no way I’d be going. You’re going to be trying to get into a routine with baby and you’re still going to be recovering from giving birth. Not to mention you’ll likely be exhausted. I hope your Brother-In-Law understands
Post # 8
I wouldnt. I will say that my cousin took a road trip from out-of-state with her 9-day-old infant to attend my wedding, so people sometimes do stuff like this… but he was her 3rd child and she is pretty much a superhero. I personally would say no to this trip. I am planning to go on a family vacation with a 6-month-old next year if all goes well, but i think 2 weeks old is another story.
Post # 9
No children yet, but due in Dec as well. We would not be going on that ski trip. Your Brother-In-Law and other in laws should completely understand.
Post # 10
Yeah no, Brother-In-Law is being unreasonable.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t, and the reason is not the baby, it’s me. At that point, you are still going to be recovering form your LO’s birth. A 6-7 hour car trip is not going to feel good even if you had the best birth ever. Any tearing or if you need a C-section is going to make it unbearable. And then you are going to need to stop every 2-3 hours to take care of the baby on top of it (as baby will need to be fed every 2-3 hours)
Once you get there, you will be stuck in the cabin all day with LO while the rest of the family is off having fun.
It sounds so miserable.
Post # 12
Not realistic. You have never been so tired in your life as you are going to be feeding a newborn every 1/2 hr to 2 hours. None of us are used to having our sleep broken up like that.
Add in the fact that you don’t know if you will be recovering from a vaginal delivery or C-section, possibly trying to get breastfeeding established (if that is your choice) and it’s your first baby, I think you would be out of your mnd to even consider it.
Plan on hunkering down as a family in your own home this Christmas.
Post # 13
I did this–drove halfway across the country with a 2 year-old and a 2 week-old for an extended family vacation (Grandma hosting all her kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids to stay a week at one of those big, old-fashioned family resorts.)
Part of it sucked–exhausted, still bleeding, too many hours in a car. I’m not someone to be stuck in a cabin all day though and am smiling in a lot of pics; it’s been a number of years and it’s all a bit of a blur. But, it was the last time the entire family was together other than her funeral so I’m glad we went and happy for the pictures.
If this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity perhaps consider it. If it’s something you can easily do next year (or don’t care that much about) take a pass and take care of yourself and your new baby.
Post # 14
No no no, just no. I didn’t feel human or recovered and barely able to go to a restaurant until 6 weeks. Just noooooo
Post # 15
No kids yet but I’d say absolutely not. What if you have to have a C-section? You have no idea what kind of condition you will physically be in and that’s not even taking into account the newborn! No thanks! Also, all of my friends that have recently had babies have told me that their doctor always recommends to keep the baby at home (aside from doctor’s appointments) for the first month. So this would be a no go for me.