- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’m not an American and my Fiance is an American.
We’re planning a December wedding and I just started to realize a wedding is really really expensive.
Here, the bride’s family pays the bigger part and his father did so when his daughter was married. This is true in my country as well.
But we’re planning to have a wedding in US because I live here. My Fiance thinks it’s unfair to let my dad pay a big part because my dad needs to pay a lot for his trip and can’t invite many people. Also we feel weird about asking his father to pay for things that are supposed to paid by bride side…
So, he wants to pay by himself (I’d like to pay as well, but I’m still a student). He doesn’t have any debt and makes six figures but he graduated just a few months ago so he doesn’t have much savings yet.
We don’t want to limit the number of guests too much – expecting between 100-200. I don’t want to feel stressed, but wow. After some googling, I started to feel very stressful.
He’s pretty laid back and he thinks we can make a wedding without being too cheap. But I’m a worrier. I felt pretty good when I discussed with him, because I thought I’m not looking for a princess wedding and he makes enough. So there shouldn’t be a big problem – I originally thought that a reasonably cheap wedding would be $5K~$10K. After he went to his place, I googled a bit. Now I’m freaked out about the cost.
I really hate a debt and don’t want to make one because of our wedding. But I am not sure how hard I should try to save and also I’m not sure if it’s really that unfair to ask my dad some help. And how much does a “reasonable” wedding cost? (in a mid-west colleague town)
I don’t have any fancy dream about wedding. All I want is to get married to him, and having a good time with our family and friends. And not too be stressed to much in the process of preparation.
Somehow, as writing, I feel a little more calm. I think I was just shocked for a while. I looked up a photographer who did my friend’s wedding. I thought the photographer was reasonably good and I know my friend’s couples’ combined income is less than my FI’s single income. So I thought that we can hire the same photographer. Then I found that the photographer’s wedding package starts at $5K. And I was just shocked… because that’s completely different from what I imagined.
Is anyone also freaked out as finding the cost? And please help me to figure out a reasonably cheap wedding budget.