(Closed) Reasons for long engagement

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We also had a two year wedding. We paid for our wedding ourselves and wanted to pay cash and we also wanted my dream wedding. We were officially engaged April 1st of 2009 and married March 31st of 2011.

Post # 18
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I like having a long engagement, more time to plan and save money. We will be getting married on our 5th year anniversary! <3

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we are having a 16-month engagement- engaged 5.16.11, will be married 10.6.12. reasons include wanting a fall wedding so we could be married outdoors without dying from heat/not during hurricane season, and that this fall was way too soon.  saving without stressing was also a major priority, as was the manipulatingm of vacation time/work scheduling.

Post # 20
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Fiance proposed on our 8 months anniversary which was January 15th, 2012 and we decided that our wedding date will be on March 14, 2015. He’s a math major at the University and it’s a pi day. (3.1415…)

Three years engagment is ideal for us because we will be done with school by then. We are expected to graduate in December 2014. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

My Fiance and I will not be getting married until 2015…at the earliest. I am still at university for another two and a half years, possibly longer if i change from full time to part time, and we want to live together for about a year at least before getting married. So saving to move out and get jobs and careers sorted is our priority right now (although first saving to go to Europe next year :))

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

I would have a longer one because:

a) I am a high anxiety individual so i wouldnt want the stress of planning everything quick. 

b) i would not want to go heavily into debt. 

That being said, my SO’s family would be dissapointed. His mother has already stated she doesnt see the point of long engagement.  But i have seen the weddings thrown together in short engagements…and i dont want to regret not taking my time. 

Post # 23
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We’re having a very long engagement(2/3 years) as I’m doing an MA while working full-time and also we want to save loads of money and have a cracking destination wedding and honeymoon!

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

Ours is 28 months (or just under 2.5 years) and there are a LOT of really good reasons for taking so long.

The biggest thing is financial ability. We got engaged last year when Fiance was finishing up school. I was still a temp at my job, he wasn’t even working… we had zero money to plan a wedding at the time. Even now, a year later, we’re just getting a point where random debts from this, that and the other thing are paid off and we can start actually saving money. We want a nice, memorable wedding that doesn’t require a bunch of corner-cutting to get the end result because we can’t afford the things we really want. That said, we are budgeting to ensure the 2-3 really, really important things get the biggest percentage of the money while others are either foregone or reduced.

Also, I think we needed time to adjust to the change in our relationship. Unlike people who start dating in their mid-late twenties or later, our relationship began during college and it’s been hard growing up attached to another person. Getting engaged was huge, and we both wanted to ensure we were ready to make the commitment and have a marriage. We both take marriage very, very seriously and would never go into it without being ready.

Aaaand superficially, a long engagement is giving both of us time to “ready” our bodies for the one day that will be most documented out of our entire lives. I have a lot of weight to lose and he’s toning up himself, so the time has made us both more relaxed and able to do that.

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