Reasons to be concerned?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Yeah, this would be a no from me too. The part that would bother me most (other than the blatant “looking hot” comment), would be that he doesn’t know where he met this woman he was going to dinner with? If that’s the case, you’re certainly not close enough to go to dinner to talk about buying a house. I think that could be accomplished with an email.

Like most of the women here have already said, it’s not an insecurity thing, it’s a respect thing. For me, there are boundaries… call me insecure if you want, but they’re there and for us it’s important. If you are secure in your relationship, there should be no need to “like” anybody’s selfies. What exactly does he get out of it, anyway? So weird to me. 

Post # 33
253 posts
Helper bee

duchessgummybunns :  You are not trying to change him, but you are offering him the opportunity of changing himself – if he wants to keep you around.

Well said !!!:) 

Post # 35
2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

ChasingZenith :  

Bee he giving you then its not you but me line because u you call him out. Smart move to dump him

Post # 36
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

ChasingZenith :  You doing the right thing by ending it with him. Same bullshit lines sooo many women have heard when they’re with someone who doesn’t want to make a commitment. You’ll find someone better and be so glad you walked away!! *hugs*

Post # 37
2493 posts
Buzzing bee

At least he had the decency to stop stringing you along. He’s a pervy, creepy loser, but at LEAST he is good enough to admit to that and let you go.

This is a good thing – it’s practice for calling out shitty behavior and moving right along if a man you’re dating shows himself to be unworthy.

I went through a couple of these stringing-along guys before finding Fiance. And I never would have found Fiance if I had stayed with those other guys any longer than I did.

Get REALLY good at looking for these red flags early on.

Get REALLY good at NOT dismissing them when you see them.

Get REALLY good at not making excuses for these guys, and instead moving right along.

Take this as a learning experience, and look happily toward a better future in which you are single and free to find a better partner. 

Post # 38
2507 posts
Sugar bee

ChasingZenith :  It’s for the best. He’s just confirmed what we were all trying to tell you – that he’s not relationship material and you can do better! As others have said, it’s good that he had the decency to be honest about that with you so that you wouldn’t keep trying to convince yourself it was headed somewhere. Next time, know what you deserve, screen carefully, and be firm about your standards. There are too many great men out there to settle for one who isn’t all in. 

Post # 39
158 posts
Blushing bee

Oh my. Deja Vu. 

I swear this word for word is like a post I read before like Years ago. 

I’m sorry this is happening to you, bee. 

Post # 40
676 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t care what he likes… this does not sound like a serious relationship and I wouldn’t take it more than a short term thing. 


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