Post # 46
We had a Sunday afternoon/early evening wedding .My husband, and the majority of his family, are Jewish so Sunday was the only day we even considered. 97 guests attended, out of the 109 invited, and it was exactly the low key party vibe wanted. The majority of wedding bee hates Sunday weddings because it’s all so inconvenient to them however Sunday weddings are NBFD in my crowd.
Post # 47
I think this is a know your crowd situation.
My friend had a Sunday late afternoon wedding a couple of years ago. Ceremony at 3 and dinner at 4:30ish. People were leaving by 7, and most were local, like within a couple of hours drive, in order to get home to get ready for work the next day. The majority of her and her husband’s guests work traditional day jobs. She was disappointed because she had the venue until 10pm. There were some people that stayed, but it was her and his friends and immediate family.
I think you have to realize too when people go to an event, they want to unwind when they get home before they go to bed. At the wedding above, I didn’t get home until midnight and couldn’t fall asleep until closer to 2 (and I didn’t drink much) and had to take Monday off. When my husband works evening shift he has to decompress before he can jump into bed. So I think a Sunday night may be hard for those that want to relax for a bit. Plus, if you’re having it during the school year, people may need to get home to relieve their babysitters and get kids to bed.
Post # 48
We had a sunday wedding from 4-9 with about 50 guests, mostly family and a few friends. Almost everyone stayed until the very end and lived locally. It was a great time. We got married at 4, dinner was served at 6. With only 50 guests everyone got their food super quick. I think we cut the cake at 7 and people danced until 9. We were cleaned up and out of the venue before 10. It was perfect for us. I think as long as you are okay with a more low key wedding it’ll be great.
Post # 49
I would prefer to attend a Sunday wedding over a Friday wedding. I have 2 weddings coming up and they are both on Friday. It is horribly inconvenient to have to take the whole day off work to travel for one of them.
If it was on a Sunday I would prefer to attend a brunch wedding as someone suggested. If it was an evening wedding I would definitely leave early because Monday mornings at 4am are already rough enough.
Post # 50
We had a Sunday evening wedding (4:30 – 9:30) and it was WONDERFUL! Our acceptance rate was higher than average and the dance floor was still packed! It’s been over a year and I still receive compliments on the classy yet fun and relaxed atmosphere. This may have been helped by the fact that it was June and we had that free-spirited summer vibe going for us.
We chose Sunday due to tradition and availability, and the several thousand dollars in savings was a nice bonus! We also got all our first-choice vendors because they were more likely to have our date open than a Saturday in June. Even if we did get married on a Saturday we are not the type to drink until 2am so we would have kept the same timeline.
Out of town people have to take a day off either way – personally I’d much rather miss a Monday than a Friday lol. (And if you get married on a Friday people flying in have to take two days off!) Locals stayed ‘til 9-9:30 as expected. Our friends all had to fly so they stayed the whole time, my family is very local so they stayed the whole time, and his extended family is like 2 hours away so they left slightly early (which I was fine with 😉 ) and honestly they wouldn’t have shelled out for a hotel room even if it was Saturday so they left at the same they would have otherwise.
All in all I think we had the same wedding as if it was on a Saturday, just cheaper and with an easier planning process.
Is Future Father-In-Law ok with missing your rehearsal dinner (presumably that Saturday night)?
Post # 51
Update — we are going to go with Sunday after all! I asked my family, his families, bridesmaids, and other VIP guests for their honest opinions and they were all fine with it, so Sunday it is! And on a semi-related note, we picked a venue. Yay!!!
ETA: Future Father-In-Law was SO happy we changed it, that it made it worth it.
Post # 52
Glad you were able to settle on a date that was good with everyone. Congratulations on picking a date and venue – exciting stuff!