(Closed) Rebuilding/resetting e-ring just before wedding

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
2466 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

Can we see a picture of the Ring?  What kind of stones and how are they set? What type/karat gold? Was it very expensive? Sometimes rebuilding or replacing stones is not the best option if it’s going to exceed the original cost of the ring. You could keep it as a right-hand ring and get a new ring if that were the case.

Post # 3
552 posts
Busy bee

No diamond is perfect. It concerns me that even if you get the diamonds replaced, you will continue to obsess over their impurities as well.

Post # 4
144 posts
Blushing bee

Do it. If you don’t do it now, you’ll never ever it off your mind. 

Post # 5
1425 posts
Bumble bee

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bunnybear79 :  I think maybe you should see a therapist because your obsessive behaviors are not healthy. It’s important to love your ring and be happy with it, but this seems like it goes deeper than just this ring.

Post # 6
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It makes me sad to hear that you’re going through this, but it also sounds like you have two very separate things happening.  1) you don’t like your ring and 2) you’ve developed some compulsive behaviors.  I’d say treat them separately.  Getting a new ring isn’t going to solve compulsivity issues.  A therapist can help with that.  Meanwhile, if you don’t like your ring, that’s an easy fix.  Good luck.

Post # 7
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017


Post # 8
710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2000

Please please see a therapist I have been through this and still deal with OCD on a daily basis it can be very serious!

Post # 9
7887 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I feel like replacing your e-ring makes it into just another ring. What’s more concerning, though, are the OCD tendencies you are having. Getting a new ring definitely isn’t going to resolve that. You shouldn’t be washing your hands so frequently that your hands become chapped. I hope you are able to find some help. 

Post # 10
32 posts

it would help to see a pic of the ring. Then we can tell you if we understand your concerns or if this is more an emotional thing that really you should see a therapist about. <3

Post # 11
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

So much of this is nothing to do with the ring. 

The way you mention feeling ‘dirty’ when wearing the ring and obsessing over the 4c’s makes me think you aren’t going to be happy with another ring/ stone either. 

As a side note I really don’t think it’s up to the store to educate you on diamonds, you came in, tried on a ring and wanted to purchase it – why would they tell you about other options if that’s what you wanted to buy?  I think you’re also focusing too much on the ‘shopping experience’ and letting that cloud your thinking, the notion of a perfect romantic day browsing for rings and full of joy is not that realistic and I don’t think you’ll feel better by attempting a do over.

If you want a new ring then go for it, but I hope you address your other issues. Good luck. 

Post # 12
474 posts
Helper bee

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bunnybear79 :  I think you should educate yourself about diamonds and stones before you go ahead and get new stones or settings or a new ring altogether. If you are going to get a new ring, spend some months before you commit to buying it and shop around heaps.

I do somewhat agree that you are going through stress and it would be best to address it first. 

But at the same time you look at your ering everyday and you wear it most of your waking time. So I think you should still do something about your ring. 

I had a similar experience with my ring but I loved the stone but was unhappy about the setting and also my wedding band. In the end we got it reset and got a new wedding band. My husband was very supportive of it because he could see how much it was bothering me. And the PPs are right, I was still not 100% happy.

We ended up spending additional $4000 for it but hubby was ok with it as long as it made me happy but still not 100% happy.

 I realised I was quite stressed over wedding planning, moving and huge workload at work etc etc it was just wearing me out. And that led to obsessing over little things. 

After things settled, I got over it. I do still obsess over my ring time to time when I am stressed. 

If it bothers you so much, i think you should get it checked out by other jewellers. But do months of research before you commit to buying. Pls do it after the wedding. You sound stressed and when you are stressed you could rush into making decisions you will regret. Good luck! 🙂 


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