- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I wanted to post a recap, because without the help of the hive, I would not have had a clue on any step of the way, so many decisions to make, so many questions that my soon-to-be husband and friends did not know the answers to and also started to think I was going crazy after I had pinged them with every thought of every detail I had. Lol. I thought about not posting our faces too, but that would be a lot of work. I tried not to post anyone else’s faces.
If it weren’t for the wedding bee, I would not have been able to do the amazing DIY flowers and bouquets, I would not have been able to find my dress, I would not have been able to negotiate our deals from venue to music to food, gosh even hair and make-up! We saved money by choosing a Friday, in April and emailing individual vendors for discounted packaging, asking for exactly what we waned photographer: 5 hours, eukalele player-1 hour from a local music teaching studio, custom menu (bbq) at the venue, 150 cupcakes from an online bakery, officiant-30 minutes using our hand-written ceremony etc. We were shooting for $5k before rings and honeymoon and I think we got to about $6500-not bad!
To start-we did a first look-after many discussions and reading up here on the weddingbee. It was the best, because I was shaking so badly when I went down to the limo and it helped calm my nerves so much just seeing him there and being able to spend a half hour with him and just him alone after not having seen him since WAY earlier in the morning. Chautauqua park in Boulder-amazing! This is a public park and there were tons of hikers and other picture takers but he did an amazing job. I’ll post a review of my vendors in another posting. Also, all photos are Greg Roe, ROEPHOTOGRAPHY unless otherwise noted. He was wondering and helped us to look like we knew what we were doing the entire time 🙂
My DIY bouquet is courtesy of whole foods, a local florist-painted primrose in Boulder and the grocery store. I just kept working with it until it was exactly what I wanted-which was tough with deep purple being our color, but I couldn’t have been happier with them.
I originally was going to walk the aisle alone, but chickened out. Luckily, the man who has been in my life since I was 16 was there and he was delighted that I asked him to walk me, as you can see.
We wrote our own ceremony with the help of other’s postings here on the bee, so I’ll post that in case anyone is interested, other’s postings sure helped us to create exactly what we wanted to say. Our officiant was very impressed and it made his job very easy. remember to hold your bouquet down and don’t squint-so hard w/all the make up on!
Don’t forget to keep looking out for the photographer, I felt like the pics where I was aware and smiling, were best, especially when walking back down the aisle. He didn’t really get but one good one where we were both looking and smiling (and not talking). The same for our guests, he tried so hard to get a shot of everyone coming out of the ceremony together but people were looking down or away.
Our ceremony décor was mostly done by our family. Thanks to the wedding bee, I had a detailed packet that I handed out, instructing family, who where and when and what they were doing. (This was also handy for family photos. I passed out a list of pics we wanted after the ceremony and our pics went in less than half an hour. The photographer was so pleased). Through my research on the bee, I figured out that Hydrangeas were the easiest flower to work with by being bulky, therefore using less and so I ordered purple hydrangeas from the grocery store, but there was a miscommunication, so we just went to all of the local grocery stores and got what we could. White was pretty much all that was left after easter, so we had some leftover stock and lisianthus from the bouquets that I used, by taping them with floral wire or up against the thick bush of the hydrangeas and they turned out perfectly. Vases are from the $1 dollar store
Our venue was superb, they did such a great job making sure everything went smoothly.
Found the blueprint for this cupcake stand online and used this foam board sort of stuff we found at hobby lobby and the hubby created it with some slight modifications, for about $5-the edges did stat to wilt a little towards the end of the evening, but everyone was eating the cupcakes like crazy so that didn’t really matter. They were delicious. I’m still getting compliments.
The photographer LOVED my dress, which was perfect because I did too. I found this sweetie online used, from another bride at preownedweddingdresses.com was only $325, however, you should always be prepared to spend on alterations. You will see from previous postings that it was advertised as 6 but was actually a 6P-BUT The Wedding Seamstress in Arvada saved the day by helping me to move some material from the train up to the front, about 3-4 inches. You can’t even tell, she did such an amazing job. I had an amazing $1200 dress for less than $600. Still a fabulous score!
Yes, we did dance lessons, only because I’m not very graceful or dancing-inclined and am super shy, we only did a couple on a coupon, but the twirls and dip move instruction was totally worth it. He struggled w/it a bit, but got it perfectly in the end and these are some of my fave pictures.
Our boutineers were ok, I made them in about 10 minutes-out of roses and ranuculus, again leftover from what we ordered bulk for our bouquets. The roses tinged a little but the runuculus held out so beautifully. I couldn’t believe it because in my test run those wilted and didnt even really open. DO A TEST RUN!
We did not do a bouquet toss, although afterwards, wished I had, because we were leaving for our honeymoon. We did do an anniversary dance which was awesome! Everyone loved it and these two crushed everyone with their 40+ years.
We had an amazing time and it was over before the blink of an eye. So enjoy every moment and try and be ‘in the moment’ every moment of your special day!
Oh, and here’s our ceremony reading: compliments of a mixed version of other bees and various writings that were modified from the interwebs:
we wanted it short and sweet and less than 15 minutes: we achieved all!
*Ask everyone to sit*
Good afternoon, family and friends
We have come here today to celebrate the wedding
of x Abbott and x Vincent
On behalf of x and x, thank you for joining us.
They are delighted that you have come to share in their joy
During this special day.
x and x have asked all of you to be here with them today because each of you have given something of yourselves into their lives. Your guidance and encouragement have shaped them and strengthened them, and in so many ways, it is you who has led them to each other.
Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection.
By making this commitment today, x and x’s relationship
will become stronger, better, and deeper.
Today, x and x demonstrate their devotion to each other
by dedicating themselves to a life together.
And they show their respect for each other
by setting forth to honor the vows they have created
Today, their lives, which began on separate paths, will be joined as one.
IV. MARRIAGE ADDRESS
Deep abiding affection.
The magical and compelling shared impulse
that makes us seek each other’s company,
is among the greatest gifts of the human experience.
Any of us who has been fortunate enough to find and express
the kind of loving devotion that we are celebrating here today
knows that it is an awesome and beautiful thing.
This understanding brings me to the first of three suggestions
I will offer to you, x and x;
be constantly grateful for the presence of this precious person
who has chosen to make a life with you.
My second suggestion is this:
Make each other the recipient of daily kindness.
The world can be a tough place.
We all must endure hardships and setbacks.
So be generous with compliments.
Be attentive and helpful.
Each of you can, by your tenderness toward each other,
your kind words and thoughtful actions,
make your marriage and your home an uplifting refuge.
Last, but perhaps most importantly,
make truth the unfailing bedrock of your lives together.
A happy, loving marriage is built on trust and respect.
That trust and respect can only be sustained
if you are both deeply committed to always being open and truthful
in every exchange no matter how small.
My hope for you is this;
That you have many long years to delight in each other’s company,
to feel gratitude for your good fortune
in having found and loved each other,
to a make a home together that is at once sheltering and welcoming,
to each do meaningful, productive work at home and in the world
and to love and be loved by the friends and family
who have come here today to support you…
May God bless you and keep you in the palm of His hand.
Brand and x, do you, with family and friends as your witnesses,
present yourselves willingly and of your own accord to be joined in marriage?
Will you promise to care for each other in the joys and sorrows of life,
Come what may,
And to share the responsibility for growth and enrichment of your life together?
Then please turn to each other and share the vows you have written.
To x & x: Please hold hands
These are the hands of your partner, young and strong and full of love, holding your hands as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future. These are the hands that will hold you and comfort you in grief and uncertainty. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and joy. These are the hands that will hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength. And these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
In honor of the vows x and x have made today, they have chosen to exchange rings.
These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no giver and no receiver – for each is the giver and each is the receiver of love. x and x offer these rings to each other as a sign of the love and commitment around which they will build their future together. May these rings remind you always of the vows you have taken here today.
Repeat after me:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my commitment,
With all that I am, and all that I have
I give you this ring as a symbol of my commitment,
With all that I am, and all that I have
x and x, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage.
We recognize and respect the vows you have made here this day
Before God and each one of us as a witness.
In the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done here today,
And in accordance with the laws of the state of Colorado
It is my honor and delight to declare you henceforth
To be husband and wife
You may seal your vows with a kiss