- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
This is going to be long, but now that I’m married, I wanted to share a few things that I learned from my wedding that I wish I knew before. Hope this helps someone!
1. Having a great MC is so important. It was a last minute decision to ask a relative of ours to be our MC. We didn’t hire a DJ (just did ipod for background music, no dancing), and our MC kept everything running smoothly. He announced our entrance, announced dinner, the cake cutting, the send off. We totally needed him and I’m so glad we had him.
2. Have a long chat with your photographer before the wedding. Our photographers were wonderful, but they missed a lot of moments I really wanted on camera (wedding party walking down the aisle, a picture of my face when walking down the aisle). I just assumed they would know to get those shots. Also, for some reason, there are literally over 40 shots of my groom and his groomsmen in all sorts of awesome photos and there are four pictures of me and the bridesmaids in the same pose. That’s all. I wish I would have talked to them beforehand and was more specific on what I wanted.
3. If you’re on the fence about the bouquet and garter toss, DO THEM. I thought everyone would hate the tosses because they are so outdated or whatever, but it turned out to be one of my favorite parts of the night. The send off was my second favorite part. We used eco confetti and it was perfect.
4. Be prepared to temporarily hate some of your favorite people. People act so weird around weddings. We had a majority of our guests not give us any gifts (which we felt a little hurt about-at least a card would have been nice) and about 25% of our guest list cancelled within 48 hours of our wedding, most without any response (never told us why, never sent a card, nothing). There were some hurt feelings for sure.
5. On the subject of gifts, expect to have things bought off your registry that you never receive. One item that I really wanted was purchased and never given to us, so I finally just bought it myself. Also, expect people to tell you that they bought you a gift, ask for your address, and never send it.
6. Make sure someone knows how to help lace up your dress if you have a corset. Even though all of my bridesmaids were shown by my seamstress how to do it, none of them could figure it out. We had to youtube instructions on the wedding day.
7. Short ceremonies are awesome. We were worried ours was too short, but everyone complimented us on how perfect it was. Also, don’t worry about the little things. I stressed that our programs weren’t fancy enough (no one looked at them for more than a second), that people would be confused without ushers (everyone found a seat on their own), and that people would notice that the church wasn’t really decorated. No one cared.
8. Rude guests will be rude regardless. Our church coordinator, pastor, and MOG all asked a guest with a screaming baby to stand outside the church during the ceremony and guess what? Her baby screamed throughout the entire ceremony and she never left, even when our coordinator talked to her during the ceremony. We also had a guest wear jeans (even though our wedding wasn’t casual), guests refuse to sit at their assigned tables, and people get sloppy drunk (one of my cousins got so drunk she followed my black bridesmaid around, begging to touch her hair). I see a lot of posts asking about how to keep certain things from happening, (like guests with babies, ringing cell phones, wearing jeans) and the answer is, rude guests will be rude even if you give them a dress code, ask your pastor to tell people to turn their phones off, etc. Just let it go.
9. The details don’t matter, but the food and drinks do. We didn’t go centerpieces so we could double the amount of appitizers. We paid extra for better food on real plates. We also couldn’t afford a full bar, but we made sure to have plenty of wine and beer. We also had two desserts. It was so worth it.
10. Finally, being married is so much better than being engaged. I expected to be sad after my wedding, but being married is so much more awesome. Although my wedding may sound like it wasn’t perfect, it really was and I’m so happy we did it!