(Closed) Received a totally unpersonalized "thank you" card. (rant)

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: My thank your cards are (were):

    personalized, hand written letters/cards

    generic photos

  • Post # 3
    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @OnceUponATime:  OMG I’ve gotten the same thing, completely unacceptable!

    And no, don’t invite that girl to your wedding!!

    Post # 5
    5473 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Photo cards are cute, but yes they should include a handwritten note as well. 

    Post # 6
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    The thank you cards don’t bother me in the slightest. The assumption that she would be invited to my wedding is what would piss me off.

    Post # 7
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I recently got one of these thank yous too.I wasnt impressed since the wedding was in July and the not at all personalized post card was recieved in January. …. I vow to do better for my guests! 

    Post # 8
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @mchitt329:  +1


    Definately do not invite her! Her assuming she would be invited to the wedding would make me so mad!

    Post # 9
    1709 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I agree she should have written something a bit more than a simple “thank you” but if you don’t know her at all, maybe she was struggling with what to write, idk…how do you know her, btw, that you were invited?  Is she or her husband FI’s friend or something?  Just wondering…

    She should not automatically assume she is invited to your wedding either.  You have no obligation to invite her.  I wouldn’t worry about it, since you don’t really know her anyway.

    Post # 10
    1561 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yup, I get SO PISSED when I get these.  Lazy asses.

    Post # 11
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Ugh! I hate the invitation assumption! I am totally deleting my facebook account in the next two months! 

    And I know what you mean about a hand written note… At least a signature or a thanks would be nice, but I’m learning that a lot of people don’t know that! Maybe she’s one of them.


    Post # 12
    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    Well.. I’m originally from Northern Europe and before joining the Bee, I had absolutely no idea that you’re supposed to write handwritten thank you-notes. I am used to general thank you-notes and actually find “thank you for the beautiful towel”-kind-of-notes creepy… Much more pressure on gift-giving, IMO.

    Post # 14
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens



    @OnceUponATime: +1 

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    @ltcolumbo:+1- very lazy!

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    @mchitt329:  I was upset when the same thing happened to me after a babyshower. And I’m not going to lie, I still have a problem with it. It kinda makes me feel like  “they better not expect one more gift from us” becuase our 1st three weren’t very appreciated (in my opinion).



    Post # 16
    3617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would be upset too. Some people really need a refresher course on etiquette. We got a thank you card once for a wedding we attended and it included marriage advice. Really? Because after being married for 2 months you’re now an expert? I was totally appalled and tossed the card in the trash immediately after showing DH who just laughed and rolled his eyes.

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