Post # 17
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Oh, okay, I was just curious, lol.
Hmm, what to say…I honestly don’t know. Your response could work, but I’ve heard that using the budget as an excuse for not inviting somone may cause some to say that they will pay their way or something like that, so you might still get caught up in that tight spot. Maybe you could say something about the capacity of the venue or something?
Post # 18
I think while yes she could have written a personal thank you note at the same time, life gets crazy and I don’t feel like the “dear xx thank you for the yyy we really love it and can’t wait to use it for such and such” form letter that most thank you notes are means that much more. I gave a gift because I wanted to. Not because I expected something in return.
As for the assuming about an invite, I do think that is kind of rude and you just say something along the lines of “sorry I spoke too soon and we have discovered we are going to have to limit the wedding to close family and friends”.
Post # 19
I’ve received several of the photo thank you cards and they all had hand written expressions of thanks on the back. It literally takes about as long as it did to open my gift, to write a small note of appreciation FOR my gift…. considering I had to go to the store and select the gift also.
I would tell her that after running the numbers and that gosh darn venue being so darn TIGHT with the numbers, you can’t invite everyone you wish you could have.
Post # 20
They deffinatly should have been a personalized note, i wouldnt have sent them out like that..I did want to use photos for ours, but theyre going to be more like post cards so i can write a nice note on the back, i think people will like them!
Post # 21
Ah. I can’t do that. Our venue can hold up to 350 and she knows it. lol I doubt she would offer to pay, I’m telling you, we really don’t know each other.
I love your response! That could work great. As for the gift, I definitely gave one because I felt like I had to. :/ Isn’t that sad? I wish I had just RSVP’d “no” to her wedding/shower.
Post # 22
I like your response too. I’ll mix it in with my ideas 🙂
I love the postcard idea! I’ve seen photos, but never received one before. I think everyone will love them!
Post # 23
Thanks! I just have to find out where to get them made, which will be the tricky part ;p I was initially going to do that for the save the dates, but we didnt end up doing save the dates since the wedding is so small, but i still want to utilize the idea! no better way than for the thank you cards haha
Post # 24
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
+1 on the response- I think that saying you had to make some eliminations implies that she was on there in the first place, so you don’t want to say that. Telling her that you are only having close family and friends is good, though
Post # 25
That would seriously irk me! I think it looks insincere to say the least. I handwrote and personalized all of our thank you cards (140 to be exact) and sent them out two weeks after we came back from our honeymoon. Under a month from our wedding date. I am one of those people who once I start something I need to finish it. I couldn’t do 10 cards and walk away, this resulted in some serious wrist pain lol
Post # 26
Ugh I hate those thank you photo cards – they are really impersonal and cheap.
We did proper cards with a photo inside and hand-written notes specific to each person and thanking them for the item/s we received. I really enjoyed writing them too and spent ages over them.
Post # 27
Check out Magnetstreet.com They have some cute designs! I can’t remember if they have postcards or not, but I’m ordering my STDs from there.
That’s a good point. I don’t want her to think “well, I WAS on the list, so maybe I can persuade myself back on?”
Bravo! TWO weeks? Yowza! I doubt I’ll do them all in one sitting (yikes!) but I have to finish once I start
Post # 28
Ha! That’s so odd– is there any chance at all that she’s just etiquette-challenged? Or maybe, with everyone doing photo Christmas cards, she decided she’d follow suit with a photo Thank You?
I hand-addressed every invitation, I have hand-written every thank-you note so far, and will continue to do so after the wedding with any cards I have to send later. It’s just what you do.
Post # 29
I would be happy with a handwritten THANKS! and a signature and nothing more, but not even that!? PSH! People assuming they were going to be invited was the sole reason why I didn’t tell anybody I was even engaged.
Post # 30
We did photo thank-you cards with a handwritten note.
I don’t have a problem if it’s not handwritten. I don’t know why this is proper etiquette, as it excludes those with certain disabilities. As long as a thank-you is personalized, I don’t care if it’s handwritten or sent through a printer.
Post # 31
All of ours were handwritten. We got married in August and I had them ALL (150ish) done and mailed by October. I wanted people to know that we appreciated what they did for us and honestly, I like getting handwritten letters/cards! I know 1/2 our guests do to and we got a bunch of comments on how thoughtful it was to send handwritten notes.
As fas as the assumed invite, I had someone post on my FB wall about wondering when the wedding was for planning purposes. I messaged them back and told them that while we had wanted to do a big wedding with lots of friends, because of our timeline, we had to keep it to more of a family wedding and we were not able to invite as many friends as we had hoped.