(Closed) Received a very rude response to a post I wrote

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re so cute! Are you still upset about the comments in your “Tired of people obsessed over looks on MY wedding day”? Oh honey, don’t worry about things like that. The world is FILLED with different kinds of people/opinions. You can’t live if you worry about every single thing that happens. Overlook anything that pisses you off! 🙂

ETA: Ladies I’m not sure if that’s the thread she was talking about. It’s just my opinion, ok? Everyone is sensitive in their own way…what’s “mean” to someone can be nothing to someone else. 

Post # 4
Member
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A post like this is going to further provoke people to say things to you that you may not like. If somone is truly being rude, report their post.

This is a forum. Sometimes you may get responses you don’t like. Differing opinions are one thing, and being rude or attacking somone is another.

Post # 5
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MeeshelleMyBelle:  I had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago and it left me quite seriously upset, so I know how horrible it can be.

I hope you aren’t too badly shaken.

Post # 6
Member
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You should speak to a mod about the rude responses and let them decide if it violates the tos, starting another thread I think can lead to trouble/drama even if that isn’t your intention. I think the mods are called helper bees if you want to find them.

Post # 7
Member
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Interesting.

Post # 8
Member
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MeeshelleMyBelle:  I just read through your thread and I didn’t see any snarkiness or rudeness. I think that people were just being honest, and sometimes, when that IS harsh, it can be misconstrued. Some bees are a bit more eleoquent in expressing their disagreement than others.

In the thread I think you are referring to, basically everyone, in a nice way, said “suck it up”, whether it be by saying that you are justified and giving an anecdote about how they, too, had a time, but in the end, it didn’t matter, or if they literally told you that you shouldn’t complain.

I hope you continue to come around! When you do post something that can have two sides, be prepared that people will mention both, whether you agree or not.

Post # 9
Member
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Whenever you post on a forum, you have to expect that not everyone will agree with you. You can’t let it bother you! Don’t let a few responses ruin your experience on an otherwise great website. 

Post # 10
Member
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Anna22:  If that’s the tread that she is upset about…I’m lost. People were not really being rude there..just mostly sharing their thoughts….I see maybe one kinda harsh respose.

 

Post # 11
Member
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just went and looked at the post in question. If you think those responses were “very rude” you,may need to get a bit of a thicker internet skin.  Everything on the internet should be taken with a grain of salt and should not be read into. Tone gets lost and many people want to get thoughts out there and help and do so quickly and bluntly. Just because someone is blunt or gives “tough love” that does not equal snark or rudeness.

In all honesty, if i was one of your guests and stumbled onto your post I might have found you a tad rude. Take a deep breath and a step back, this community is very supportive as well as very honest. Just because someone’s opinion (and/or their delivery of it) is different than you would like, that does not make them rude.

PS sorry for any errors, posting from my phone.

Post # 12
Member
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I will also say that WB for the most part is an extremely friendly andcivil place when it comes to wedding forums. Even when disagreeing, things dont get too out of hand usually.

if you want to know what mean is, go post the same thing at The Knot.

Post # 13
Member
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Firstly, on the internet, responses can come off in a way they are not intended to. I’ve seen lots of posts where people react to a response and the writer comes back and apologises because they didn’t mean to come off snarky.

Secondly, all it takes for people to argue is a difference of opinion and that happens a lot on here. It’s easier said than done but try not to take it personally 🙂 It’s happened to all of us! When people are being downright rude, just ignore them. Some people definitely get off on being argumentative though because it’s easy to hide behind a computer screen.

Thirdly…some of the best advice I’ve got on here is the advice I didn’t want/expect to hear so be open to everything people say to you.

I do think the majority of people here are good people with sound advice 🙂

Post # 15
Member
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Word of advice, OP, these treads do nothing but paint a target on your back. If you have a problem with what someone said either take it up with them in the original thread or PM the user. There’s really no need to start a “*Wahhh* Someone was mean to me” thread. 

FWIW, I read through your other thread and didn’t see anything overly rude or snarky. Just people being real with ya. If you can’t hack it, posting on an internet forum may not be the best place for you. 

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