Post # 1
We received our first ‘declines with regret’ in the mail today. I know not everyone will be able to come but I’m feeling sad to get the first one. It is from the parents of our friend who we are pretty close with. They sent a handwritten note along with the rsvp explaining that they have another committment that night but wish they could go to our wedding instead. It was sweet to get the little note but I can’t help but be bummed they won’t be there to party with us.
How did you get over your sadness from declines (not including the ones you knew/secretly hoped would decline lol)
Post # 3
The only decline that ticked me off was from my aunt and one of my first cousins. (My wedding date was picked in Feb 2011.) They would still be on vacation that day. So let’s just say I know where I’ll be when she gets married.
Post # 4
I’ve received so many declines from my fiances crazy family, I don’t even care anymore…As long as you celebrate your love together, you know that the people there are the ones that truly count in your life.
We picked out our date 1yr & 1/2 ago & even sent out a save the date & his family still managed to book their vacation on that week. Decide they had better things to do since they don’t believe in marriage.
I’ve never been so mad in my life but hey…karma…
I don’t think I’ll ever get over it but i can’t do anything about it…
Post # 5
We are getting ready to mail our invitations out in about a week so I’m already preparing for the people who cannot make it. Then again, there are people we invited that we know probably won’t come but invited anway. Try not to get too upset about it. : )
Post # 6
I received a no from my grandparents, no note or explanation. I was shocked and so, so sad. I’ve yet to call them and ask what’s going on, because I want to wait until I know I won’t cry on the phone about it.
A lot of my fiance’s family is declining, but that’s b/c they all live really far away, and we’ll see them all in August for a reunion thing.
We were planning for 55 (including ourselves) but will probably end up with around 40, and I’m ok with that.
Post # 7
Fiance actually took the declines harder than me. I was like, “oh ok, moving on.” Then again we didn’t really have any declines I was surprised about.
Post # 8
@sembriac: That’s tough 🙁 I hope you’re able to talk to them soon and that maybe they’ll change their mind.
Post # 9
Is it bad im hoping to get 30 declines to stay under budget LOL
Post # 10
I agree with @masterteee2013, I am counting on 30-40% declines… The wedding is in Boston and most of our guests (actually 95%)are from out of town. OH WELL… As long as the people that are most important to you are there, don’t let it get to you.
Post # 11
@xlsm: Awww, I want to give you a big hug.
I’m scared to send out invites and start getting RSVPs back. : We only invited close family and friends, and sent out Save-The-Date Cards almost a year in advance, so it’s not like people don’t know the date or don’t have time to plan.
Post # 12
I don’t think I will be that bummed about the declines. The only people who matter most to me are Fiance, my parents, and my bridesmaids.
I’m really inviting other people because I sort of have to. If we don’t meet the number of people we’re paying for, we simply get some upgrades and I’m a-okay with that! I’m like @masterteee2013: in looking forward to a few declines. Maybe 10.
Post # 13
I was begging for declines since we invited more people than the room could comfortably hold! I wasn’t all that disappointed about any of the “no’s” – all the important people I truly cared about being there are coming, so I’m not concerned.
Post # 14
I expected a bunch of no responses since there’s a lot of travel in our wedding. We weren’t shocked with some of them – I was actually shocked with some of the yes responses, though!
Post # 15
I’m praying for at least 30 declines to stay under budget! Haha!
Post # 16
I just saw every No RSVP at $60+ saved. I actually had about an 85% acceptance rate and the 15% were people I either knew weren’t going to be able to make it or I only invited out of obligation and didn’t really want to see anyway.