(Closed) Received invitation, but unable to attend Wedding- What to give?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know there is a money rule out there somewhere, but i dont know where.  I would just do something that both of you are ok with.  Also, dont overextend just to stay on cue with what you are “supposed” to do.  With the economy, I throw all money rules out the window when gifting.

Post # 4
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I’m not sure if there are steadfast rules but I’d think of what I’d give them if I were going and maybe cut that monetary amount in half. That’s just what I’d do personally, but there are definitely differing opinions on the subject!

Post # 5
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would give what you would give if you were going, but if not the full amount, maybe 50-75%?

Post # 7
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would go with your first instinct.  How much do you “picture” yourself giving them.  You can also cut that somewhat since you no longer have to cover the cost of your meal, etc.

Post # 8
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel

This happened to me recently and we went with $50. Many of the items on their registry were right around that price so we rolled with it.

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