Post # 1
Hello, I’m not sure if there is a post about this already, but I need your help.
What is an appropriate gift to give when not able to attend their wedding?
A friend of ours (not that close) is getting married next month. Its kind of a last minute wedding as we found out two months ago through the grapevine, but we were unsure if we were invited. We asked a friend to ask the bride because we were planning a trip around her wedding date, but the bride wasn’t sure herself. We assumed we weren’t invited and booked our trip a day before her wedding. Our friend then texted her that we booked our trip already so it didn’t matter.
Anyway, we received her invitation yesterday. Obviously we cannot attend. We’d like to give a gift (monetary), but I’m not sure what is appropriate. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I know there is a money rule out there somewhere, but i dont know where. I would just do something that both of you are ok with. Also, dont overextend just to stay on cue with what you are “supposed” to do. With the economy, I throw all money rules out the window when gifting.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I’m not sure if there are steadfast rules but I’d think of what I’d give them if I were going and maybe cut that monetary amount in half. That’s just what I’d do personally, but there are definitely differing opinions on the subject!
Post # 5
I would give what you would give if you were going, but if not the full amount, maybe 50-75%?
Post # 7
I would go with your first instinct. How much do you “picture” yourself giving them. You can also cut that somewhat since you no longer have to cover the cost of your meal, etc.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel
This happened to me recently and we went with $50. Many of the items on their registry were right around that price so we rolled with it.