Post # 1
So we sent our save-the-dates a couple months ago. I sent them to everyone because our wedding is on a Sunday evening, so we wanted to make sure people looked ahead on their calenders to adjust work schedules and what not. I gave some to a few of my coworkers. Now, since then, a couple of them and myself have gotten weird vibes. I work in a sales environment and upon helping a couple customers and making great sales out of them, I’ve apparently lost a few coworkers. Either way, they’ve completely stopped speaking to me – which is absolutely fine by me, but how do I tell them they won’t be receiving an invite? Our invites go out in about a month, and my fiance says he doesn’t want to invite and pay for people who obviously aren’t our friends. Suggestions? Should I even say anything?
Post # 3
If they got a save the date, they get an invite. No way arou d it. Hopefully, if they aren’t speaking to you, they will decline. But you have to invite them.
Post # 4
Someone once told me, the cost of STD’s is far mor expensive then just the paper and stamps.. It’s the cost of having to invite all the people you sent them too!
unfortunately I agree with pp, you have to invite them.. But the good news is that they will probably decline.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@liziwoods: Unfortunately, there’s nothing that you can really do without making things worse. 🙁
Post # 6
I don’t agree with PPs. There are plenty of reasons to not invite someone after they get an STD (oh lol at the acronym). I don’t see anything wrong with it. Obviously not sending an invite will not repair any friendship but if you are not looking to do that then you have absolutly no reason to pay for a dinner and drink for someone who will just ignore you.
Hey, it may even make them talk to you and ask where their invite is!
Why on earth would you invite someone to your wedding who you don’t have a relationship with anymore? Ridiculous.
Post # 7
I would still send an invite and hopefully they just decline.
Post # 8
Have you tried talking to them to see why they’re acting that way? I think you still need to send an invitation. If they’re acting so hostile towards you, they probably won’t come anyways, but it’s only going to make things worse if you don’t send them an invitation.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone, however knowing how they are, they’ll go to hang out with the other people they know who are going and take advantage of the open bar we’ll be hosting. That just rubs me the wrong way. We’re currently paying about $110/person.
Post # 10
Can we please just call them save the dates?
Post # 11
I dunno… if someone was no longer speaking to me I would not invite them. I know that’s a major STD/invite etiquette faux pas, but if these people are actively going out of their way to not talk to you, they should have no interest in attending your wedding.
Post # 12
what? take all the fun away and type more? never!
Post # 13
LOL okaaaay *shuffles away*
Post # 14
Eh, I’m normally pretty etiquette oriented but I would not send an invite to someone giving me the silent treatment.
Post # 15
Yeah that’s what I thought too. If someone I didn’t like invited me to a wedding where all my friends were gonna be I’d go party on that person’s dime, why not?
What’s the worst thing that can happen if you don’t invite them? They won’t talk to you?
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2021 - Wyckoff, NJ
Ehhh if someone is rude enough to cut you off like that, then etiquette need not apply.