Receiving gifts before the wedding – Thank You card etiquette

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
4921 posts
Honey bee

You should send thank you’s asap.

If they are really interested in pictures, there’s nothing stopping you from printing copies of a picture and sending them a nice notecard for no reason other than to be friendly and say hi with a photo enclosed inside.  It doesn’t have to be in the form of a thank you card.

But if you end up thanking them twice then so be it.  No one ever died from expressing too much gratitude or being on the receiving end of someone’s gratitude.

Post # 3
47417 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Thank you notes should always be sent asap after receiving a gift, no matter what the occasion. Waiting for a wedding pic is not acceptable.

Send a thank you note now (I am presuming by generic, you mean a blank card in which you will express your heartfelt thanks, not a pre-printed Thank You card that you just sign).

You can easily send them a wedding pic later.

Post # 4
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

For gifts we received in advance, we bought blank cards and wrote our thank you for the gift and sent that, then after the wedding thanked them for their presence on the “official” thank you notes. 

Post # 5
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

You’re absolutely right that you need to thank people promptly.  Send them a picture later if you’d like (or just to appease your mother-in-law, as the case may be!).

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