(Closed) Receiving gifts in parking lot — is this idea totally tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is it tacky to receive gifts in parking lot and put in trunk before the wedding?
    Yes, the gifts should be on display for the wedding -- tough luck if it's really inconvenient : (8 votes)
    38 %
    Not ideal, but if handled delicately by groom's mother, this is fine & not offensive : (11 votes)
    52 %
    No biggie, people just want to get to the party and will understand it's an unconventional set-up : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 4
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Meh, i guess it’s kinda the same as gifts going into the trunk after the reception…i mean, if there’s nowhere to put them….what can you do?

    However, most guests don’t bring gifts to the ceremony, just the reception. They may try to bring them along anyways.

    I wouldn’t even THINK to set gifts down on a table before the ceremony. Most of our guests went back to the car after the ceremony and brought gifts to the reception–and our venues were in the same place.

    Post # 5
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    hmmm, tricky. I think if there was a nice sort of exchange of the gifts to the grooms mother at a table out front that may work. ( guests don’t see her put in trunk maybe?)

    As a guest if i walked up to the venue and there was a car parked with a trunk open and you gave it to her and she put it in right away… i don’t know.. i’d feel funny about it. 

    Post # 7
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think setting out a nice table and having someone welcome guests makes sense. 

    Once all the guests have arrived and left on the tram then put them in the car.

    Post # 8
    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think if she can do it sneakily, not have the guests see her do it, its fine.

    Post # 9
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Just make sure they know the trolley doesn’t go back and forth…once they’re there, they’re there.

    Post # 10
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Here’s a thought.  What about setting up a wheelbarrow in the garden area for the gifts to be placed in.  That way it wouldn’t be as intrusive as a table and could be moved around if needed. 

    Keep in mind too that people will show-up late after the ceremony starts. So you might just want to have the tram run again in every so often so that people can go back and forth to their cars.  I noticed that during our wedding we had 3 couples show up after the ceremony ended and they went straight into the reception room.  I also noticed some people going to the cars for break and such. 

    Post # 11
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Whatever is convenient for them.  If I had to carry a 20lb waterford punchbowl for any longer than 3 min, I wouldn’t care if you tossed it into the back of a beat up truck.

    Post # 12
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think gifts necessarily should be on display.  My venue recommends against that because people can “steal,” but that aside- I personally think it is a little tacky to have them on display. 

    I think it is ok to have them “taken somewhere” by someone after you thank your guest.  I think gifts are kind of personal and almost private. 

    Post # 13
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I like the wheelbarrow idea…there must be an area where you can set up a creative little space…it doesn’t have to be a big table

    if not, then set up the sign-in table & gift area at the tram pick-up & be sure to let guests know that once they are at the ceremony location they will then walk over to reception & will not be coming back because as someone said above some guests will want to wait to get their gifts after the ceremony…

    the reason I say set the sign-in table with the gift table is that you don’t want it to seem like you were obviously expecting gifts.

    waiting to put them in the trunk until guests are our of sight is a good idea as well, or at least wait a while…

    Post # 15
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @cbee- I don’t think the idea is to have them on display.  It is more of people show up and need a place to put the gifts.  Just like someone coming to your home and wanting a place to sit their purse or hang their coats.  The table is just a designated place for people to leave the gifts. Otherwise they’d leave them on their dinner tables and who knows what could happen to them at this point.

    @Marinara- since you have such a small group coming to the wedding anyways, you probably won’t have many gifts to contend with since most people will gift to you prior to the wedding. I think the idea of having a welcome table with the guestbook and some photos of the two of you would work just fine.  I also wouldn’t have your parents in charge of taking down the table. As they will need to be with you and your Fiance getting ready for the ceremony.  I would assign this task to a really good friend or other family member that is in the ceremony.

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