(Closed) Receiving Money Before The Wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Do you care when they cash it?  If not, just put today’s date and send it in.  If you want them to cash it (or if you don’t care) – I’d add a note:  feel free to cash before the wedding, if you’d like!

I cashed all our checks at the same time – although, I only received one pre-wedding (with a similar note).  

Not sure of the official ‘rule’, though.

Post # 4
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We received our first one this week for our September wedding and I wasn’t sure how to handle it so I checked Emily Post.  It is ok to cash checks before the wedding but not before the check writer has received your thank you note.  It’s also important to remember that some banks won’t take a check that’s dated more than 90 days back.

Post # 5
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are cashing our checks as soon as the thank you card is mailed.  I HATE when people take months to cash my checks…which is why I usually send a gift card, and just assume it would be equally annoying to someone else.  You could post date the check, but then they’d run the risk of misplacing it etc, depending on how long it is until the wedding.

Post # 7
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Oh I hate it when people wait forever to cash checks. It’s like I have this money reflected in the bank… that I don’t really have. Please feel free to cash the check before the wedding. Plus you’re supposed to send a thank you card immediately (I thought). So to me, they sent it early… you enjoy it early. I’m actually about to cash a wedding check right now, and we have 6 weeks until we get married 🙂

Post # 8
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Our wedding is in 3 days and not one single check and or gift has been given to us.

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