Post # 1
My wedding is 22 days away, and I have received 2checks in the mail from two people who are not able to make it to my wedding. What do I do? Do I cash the checks before the wedding? I know some people hate having outstanding checks sitting there. Do I cash the checks now? Also I was going to have our picture on the thank you cards, so they are not even ordered yet.
What is the right thing to do?
Post # 3
We received a few gifts early from people who couldn’t attend and even some who could, as well as a couple cash “engagement” gifts. I think it’s perfectly normal to receive some gifts before or after that wedding instead of at the wedding.
I would cash now, as I was taught it’s considered polite to cash checks as soon as you receive them. That way, the sender knows you’ve received it and they don’t have to keep that amount around in their checking account waiting for you to cash it.
Send them a thank you card same as everyone else who gives you a wedding gift. People generally accept that there are a lot of thank you’s to be written, so sending the card at the same time within a few months after the wedding should be fine. We did this and were also glad we had a few extra cards for the late gifters. We did acknowledge the early gifts when we had a chance to speak to the gifters in person as well, like thanking my aunt when I saw her at the rehearsal for the lovely coffee maker, then still sent a card.
Post # 4
Ive always heard that you’re not supposed to cash a check until you send the thanks you card. But this rule might be different for weddings since there are tons and tons of thank-yous to be written. If I were you, though, I’d cash it now and send a thank you card now
Post # 5
I would maybe wait until the wedding but then again I am one of those who hates checks that dont clear.
Post # 6
Definitely cash it now, and definitely send them a thank you card now. I know you wanted your pictures on the thank you cards, but these people will have to get generic ones. Maybe you could send them a picture after the wedding as well.
Post # 7
@riss519: what date did they put on the check? If its a current date then cash it.
If they didn’t want you to cash it yet they would probably put your actual wedding date on the check (speculating here).
Post # 8
My older brother sent me a check for our wedding, they were coming, about two weeks before my wedding. I didn’t deposit it, and when they showed up my SIL was like WTF you’re screwing up my banking.
I would deposit it/cash it and send out a Thank You note ASAP. It’s not rude to open the gifts you get before the wedding, besides one less Thank you note to send out AFTER the wedding.
Post # 9
If I send you a check, please please please cash it immediately! I hate having a check floating around.
Post # 10
I would cash the check now. I hate writing checks because of the whole element of uncertainty and not knowing when the recipient will cash it. I definitely would appreciate it if recipients cashed it as soon as it is received.
Post # 11
We received a check before the wedding and cashed it. We let them know we got it and they’ll be getting a hand-written note like everyone else, shortly.
It’s polite to cash checks within the week of getting it. If you want to wait, then I’d ask the giver if they mind the check being outstanding in their account.