(Closed) Recently married, MOH for my friend’s wedding – no help whatsoever…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Could you get her mom involved? Maybe she would be more helpful in at least connecting you with some reliable family members. I don’t think it’s appropriate for them to expect you to foot the bill on the whole event since you’re far away and have travel costs added on top.

Post # 4
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think you should pay the whole thing just because you are the only one who is in her bridal party. A shower should be funded by very close friends and family if the wedding party is tiny, like in this case. I know for a fact that I am not going to be throwing a shower for 50 folks, from a 6hr drive away by my lonesome!

Post # 5
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ohhh that sounds like a lot of stress they are putting you through! You poor thing! I would just pick a restaurant, state on the invitations that people are to pay for their own food and drinks and perhaps just pay for something like a cake? you cannot be expected to pay for 50 people yourself! Plus its not like she did anything like that for your shower!

Post # 6
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950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely get in touch with her mom if you can.  My bridal party was “tiny” (just Maid/Matron of Honor & BM) & they asked her to help pay (had a hired chef come in & teach us dinner party recipes & make a private dinner for us)…there were only 10 invitees & 8 guests who actually came.  My mom paid for half the guests (all non-family members), while my family & BMs paid for themselves.

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