(Closed) Reception blur?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@prncss47:  absolutely! I regret not taking the time to spend a few minutes with more of our guests, many of whom traveled long distances to be there! after, I felt like, oh it was so nice to see X & Y, but I only hugged them during the receiving line! i’m SO glad we did the receiving line, since I at least had that moment with everyone after the ceremony!

the crazy thing is, we spend months and months, some brides YEARS, planning for a few hours. It flies by in a blur. sad, but true. I wish we could have had a few more hours with eveyrone that night!!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

I totally felt like this!!! It was such a haze for me and I remember that there were a couple people I’d meant to spend more time with, and I hardly danced, and my Maid/Matron of Honor was out on the patio for a lot of it and I wanted to be there with her more but felt like I hardly saw her. 

BUT, then I got the pictures, and heard others’ responses to the wedding, and it started to all come together. Both pictures and stories have helped give shape and form to the evening for me, and I remember so much more now.

I still wish I could have talked to people more, danced more, done more, said more – but because I wanted it to go on forever. But I’m happy and satisfied with it all now 🙂

Post # 34
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel your pain!! I felt exactly the same way, a sort of weird feeling, I didnt eat any of my sweetie buffet or evening buffet, and after the speeches I dont remember much, I remember speaking to everyone, but it was like I was floating above myself or something  and when I think back to this part it was like I wasnt actually there!! I saw some pics and noticed some lights that I had chosen that I didnt even notice on the night!! I know I had the happiest day of my life but after the speeches I really wish I could remember more!! But I do think that you are right when you say to stop dwelling on what you cant remember and just know that you had the best time, and at least the marriage bit is clear and that is the most important part (and the best bit!!). Video and photos and peoples accounts do help a lot too! And really it is just the beginning! x

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

ahh..consider yourself lucky. mine felt like it would never end…everythign was lovley up until dinner when certain people started acting “unhappy”…I guess there was personal issues going on…and it was so hot…and I couldn’t find my husband half the time..lol….my reception wasn’t the best moments of the whoole wedding. I mean, I truly enjoyed the last dance (I hardly remember the first one)….and ceremony was lovley, everythign we planned it to be…..the honeymoon divine.

But yeah, I was sad for a while about how thigns went at my reception…I always thought I woudl be pleasantly buzzed and be on a cloud but I was more feeling like I wanted to tear my dress off and go to bed. lol.. I’m nearly a year in and I can finally look back at the good thigns and less at what didn’t go as expected. Give it time. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow, I’m so glad to see that this is a common thing!  I joke that I felt as if I drank too much, yet never finished a single glass of wine!  Total haze. 

Post # 37
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh My – I actually searched for this bc I thought I was the only one!!!!  After the toast..I remember dancing a lot, getting people to dance visiting tables (me and fiance did it separately) but it’s like I was in a fog!  I noticed the dj did play the music I wanted, but a lot of stuff I find myself asking my bridesmaids about.  I thought I was crazy!  I danced with people I forgot I danced with and I didn’t even drink a lot. And I regret that I also missed a couple tables and keep going back to the day to try and remember more.  I am ssoooo happy I found these posts!!!

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kari1978:  nope, def not alone!  Wait until you get your pro photos back! That should jog some memories!

Post # 39
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sooo happy I found this thread.  I feel so sad that I can’t remember alot of my wedding reception!  It really does feel like your drunk.  The dancing part is mostly what I can’t remember.  I cannot wait to get back my photos and video.  Everyone said it was an absolutely blast.  I can remember the after party perfectly just not the dancing at the reception. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel the exact same way about my wedding day!

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Same here! 

 

It kind of felt like I was a little on fast forward, just a tiny bit, and everyone else was in normal time… I just didn’t feel 100% present. Kind of like I was in a daze for the entire reception. 

Post # 41
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Wannabee

I am happy to hear that I am not the only person who feels this way!  I keep trying to replay the reception over in my head and I get emotional when I can’t remember after the father daughter dance. I had maybe 2-3 drinks and I made sure I ate earlier in the day and at dinner so I could not have been drunk.  Our wedding had about 135 people but I still do not remember talking to everyone and I was not able to get to all the tables.  I keep beating myself up over it!

Post # 42
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2014

prncss47:  This post really helped me! My wedding was just last weekend, and I have been feeling pretty down and out since everything ended. I drank a little, for sure, but nothing until the cocktail party. And yet still, looking back at the whole day, from the time I got up through hours of hair and makeup, the ceremoy, hours of pictures….It’s hard to recall. Then, the reception well I know I had fun and I did what I wanted to do – DANCE all night long. However, now I regret not saying hi to as many people or even who I was dancing with. Everyone said they’ve never seen me happier…I just wish I remember that happy feeling more. And, spending more time with friends and family that traveled, as well as my parents and bridal party. I know everyone had a blast and commented on how everything was great, I just wish I could’ve experienced it all more with them, if that makes sense. 

 

Everyone said it would be a flash and they were NOT kidding! It’s almost like it was someone elses’ wedding and I was just having the time of my life at it, not trying to take as much in. I didn’t take a chance to step back, and I wish I would’ve. I’m hoping my pictures make me happy and not sad to what I missed. But realizing that this was an event, a ritual, and then a party – NOT a marriage – puts things into perspective. It was a grand kickoff and I’m trying to cope with the feelings, and so grateful I’m not the only one! Thanks guys.

Post # 43
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2014

prncss47:  This post really helped me! My wedding was just last weekend, and I have been feeling pretty down and out since everything ended. I drank a little, for sure, but nothing until the cocktail party. And yet still, looking back at the whole day, from the time I got up through hours of hair and makeup, the ceremoy, hours of pictures….It’s hard to recall. Then, the reception well I know I had fun and I did what I wanted to do – DANCE all night long. However, now I regret not saying hi to as many people or even who I was dancing with. Everyone said they’ve never seen me happier…I just wish I remember that happy feeling more. And, spending more time with friends and family that traveled, as well as my parents and bridal party. I know everyone had a blast and commented on how everything was great, I just wish I could’ve experienced it all more with them, if that makes sense. 

Everyone said it would be a flash and they were NOT kidding! It’s almost like it was someone elses’ wedding and I was just having the time of my life at it, not trying to take as much in. I didn’t take a chance to step back, and I wish I would’ve. I’m hoping my pictures make me happy and not sad to what I missed. But realizing that this was an event, a ritual, and then a party – NOT a marriage – puts things into perspective. It was a grand kickoff and I’m trying to cope with the feelings, and so grateful I’m not the only one! Thanks guys.

Post # 44
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2014

audrey.liszewski:  This is similar to my story! i have the photos and the bits and pieces but I suppose it’s impossible to remember every conversation, though I wish I could. Do I remember them on a regular basis? NO! With all the emotion of this day, it’s no wonder my brain wasn’t as sharp as normal. And a LONG day at that! I was exhausted but kept chugging til the bitter end! And I don’t mean wine!

Post # 45
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Helper bee

prncss47:  Absolutely. My Darling Husband and I call it the “day of the happy coma.” It was a total blur and we basically blacked out with happiness the whole day, definitely the whole reception- we just got our video back of the ceremony and toasts and it was like we were seeing them for the first time- I am SO GLAD we did video! 

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