(Closed) Reception dilemas

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s not weird at all! Many women do that, particularly military families.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My cousin did that after her destination wedding, I don’t think it’s weird or wrong to do.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont think its weird but my thoughts are dont hide you are already married from your guests – for me its a renewal not an actual wedding as you are already married but do the ceremony, white dress, flowers, cake to celebrate and share with family/friends

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Totally normal. 

have fun!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had a legal wedding a year before our formal wedding, there are quite a few bees who have done it for one reason or another.  It is especially common with military brides, my SIL and brother did it too.  I treated my formal wedding just like any bride would treat their wedding as did my SIL.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

My best friend and her husband did that. The problem was, they did have to hide that they were already married because nobody in his family knew – they would have been extremely upset and offended if they knew he and she had tied the knot without their presence, so the vow renewal was treated like the first-time wedding. It went over pretty well, and everyone who knew kept mum so his family didn’t have to be hurt that they weren’t included.

(I should add, the reason they didn’t know the first time was that it was a spur-of-the-moment decision, kinda like yours, and they did it for financial coverage reasons right before he went on a tour to Iraq for 12 months.)

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