- 3 years ago
Hi fellow bees.
I feel lost on this issue but I’m hoping that fellow bees can help me out here a bit. So Fiance and I are getting married in 2019 and we have been discussing the reception. We both have a different view on the bar service for the reception. A bit of backstory to this, her family is not religious and enjoys a drink or 3. Fiance, myself and my side of the family are Christian, with my family more strict on the religion front (my grandfather was a Reverend). Some of our planned invited guests are known to go overboard with the drink and become noisy when they have had more than 2 drinks or do silly things when the alcohol flows, if you get my meaning.
FI’s family are not financially strong for this wedding, so we do not expect them to help with the wedding and because of this, my family has agreed to pay for our wedding (it’s a cultural thing). My dad has told us that he does not wish for alcohol to be present at the reception. Dancing, candy bar, plated food, he’s more than okay with that but draws the line at alcohol. Fiance doesn’t see the problem with having a cash bar if people want to drink. I am placed solely in the middle, because I don’t want to go with my parents and forego my future wife, or choose my wife and forego my parents. I wouldnt mind if either option was at the reception, but most of the guests from my side know that we do not drink, so they won’t see it being a problem. Fiance on the other hand, says it may be a problem.
I’ve suggested to Fiance that we could leave the alcohol and go for mocktails, a signature drink, tea, coffee, sparkling juices/ non-alcoholic grape juice, virgin cocktails, sodas and the like, which she agrees would be a good substitute, but am I going about this correctly? I told Fiance that i don’t care about the guests complaining, but more that she and I enjoy the day. She agrees but remains worried, which makes me worry!