Post # 1
I am new to the board and this is my first time posting. I’ve been reading everyone’s helpful posts since my engagement. Now I have a question. My mom talked me into getting three outfits on my wedding day, and my white gown is the cheapest of the three. My FH and I decided we will only have reception (no ceremony).
So, my dresses are: (1) white wedding gown for pictures, (2) cake cutting / toasting gown, and (3) short dancing dress. Out of these three dresses, my white one is the least expensive. Both of my cake cutting/toasting gown and dancing dress are Marchesa Couture, and costs 2-3 times as much as my wedding gown, which is a Pronovias. I totally blew budget and was wondering if I should not have let my mom talked me into spending so much money on the other dresses. She and aunt insisted that I should keep the dresses because it’s a one in a lifetime thing, and I can never get this moment back (b/c I’ll be older and not have the same figure)….tremendous buyers’ remorse!
Post # 3
Welcome to the Hive!
Sorry you feel that way. Any chance you can get a refund and opt for less expensive dresses?
Post # 4
Welcome!! Well, my second dress cost about $400 less than my gown so I’ve been trying to find one used online.
Post # 5
wowzers! I think two Marchesa gowns are my entire wedding budget 🙂
I had similar remorse after I bought a pair of Jimmy Choos at full price and then realized that money had to come from somewhere else in the budget. I ended up returning them and finding them very gently used, on ebay for half the price.
Sounds like the cake-cutting/toasting one will be worn for the least amount of time. Could you return that one? Another option would be to sell one or two of your dresses after the wedding to recoup the cost.
Do you LOVE your Pronovias? I also think once you’re in your wedding dress, if you love it, you wont want to change out of it so quickly!
Post # 6
Personally, I think multiple dresses are a waste of money in general. I spent enough on my gown that I want to wear it as long as possible to try and make it worth it. If you don’t love the other one, I’d return it, especially if it didn’t fit in your budget.
Post # 7
Well, I think changing out of my beloved wedding gown at all is weird, without getting to anything regarding cost of each. I am not sure I see the point of a cake cutting gown, so if you decide to return one so that you have a bigger budget for other areas of the wedding, that would be my suggestion.
Post # 8
Thank you Bees!!! I actually returned one of the marchesa gown, and my mom was very upset. I understand the term “bridezilla” now. It’s not so much with the wedding planning that drives a lot of people bonkers, it’s the family (well at least for me). It’s so hard trying to please everyone from the gown, to mom’s gowns, to invite lists, and the list goes on.
As for the pronovias dress, I do love it. That is why I didn’t want to buy anything else. I seriously cannot imagine taking that dress off until the night is over…then I’d wear to sleep if I could, but it’s “culture” to have more than one gown (usually a traditional red color outfit).