Post # 1
Oh man Im second guessing myself now.
DH and I eloped on top of a mountain last October. I hiked in my dress thus I chose a cotton/linen casual and comfortable dress (see below) to get hitched in.
August 11th we are having a big crazy reception party in celebration with all our friends and family at Blue Hill at Stone Barns in Pocantico Hills, NY. Its a big gorgeous barn and foodie destination that Ill have decked out in bright, lush, intense farmers market flowers. We are having one of our favorite indie rock bands Jukebox the Ghost play a set after dinner and then DJ the rest of the night. Is my dress going to fit in? Im not a fussy person who has ever wanted a big organza dress, but should I get something different? If so what? Im going to want to jump around and dance after dinner and I think I could in my dress but I just dont know if the look is right. I also dont have much time to switch it around now!
All these doubts popped in full force after talking to my mother tonight. She asked what I was wearing and when I said my dress she said “Oh that prairie girl country thing you wore. hmm” Crap. Please advise!
Pics of the venue here:
Post # 2
That venue could either be formal or toned down. It sounds like you’re going for a more casual look. So in that case, I say forget mom & wear your dress!!
Post # 3
thank you so much for your response! We are going with a more casual tone- our dress code is jackets not suits and we requested colorful outfits so I think I can make my elopement dress work!
Im also doing my hair more whimsically with a crown braid and pearl hair vine so that might help dress it up a bit
Post # 4
I would go a floor length sparkly number without a train and with some moveability so I can dance the night away! Only if your budget allows for a new dress though. You don’t have to wear white either
Post # 5
But seriously you can wear whatever the hell you want, it’s your party! As for your ma’s comment, that was uncalled for. There’s a lot of truth to the saying ‘if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. If it’s meaningful to you to wear the dress you got married in then you should 100% wear it
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
1) Your dress is adorable, and totally fit your hiking vibe!!!!!
2) Since you’re already married, IMO, the wedding dress would be a little odd. If it were me, I’d use it as an excuse to get a new fancy dress
3) Cute hairdo idea!
Post # 7
yeah the reason we are wearing wedding stuff is because we are renewing vows. I may go get a new second dress though for the rest of the night
I love that dress! Alright maybe I’ll go take a look at some more party dresses. I do have room in the budget
Post # 8
I like your dress and the whole rustic gastro barn feel could swing either way. If you are really itching for a new dress then perhaps a fitted causal white gown would also work.
Post # 9
Another option – you can get a department store party dress for $200ish, something fun and short enough to dance in easily. This is actually what I did for my wedding, and I’ve never regretted it. Have fun!
Post # 10
Alright I have a few options to propose (may start a new thread to get a poll going)
Perks: easy to dance and jump around in for a rock show
Downside: maybe too casual
Perks: long, more fancy is still white despite being patterned
Downside: may not stand out in crowd
Perks: this thing definitely stands out
Downside: that neckline may be too bold given nanna will be there
For options 1 and 2 I can dress it up with this lace duster
Post # 11