- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
@kmdumford I love that dress!!!!
@kmdumford I love that dress!!!!
I love my dress so much, and I can’t imagine changing out of it once I’m in it. To each their own, but I can’t fathom paying so much for a garment (which was only $600 — I’m a budget bride, which may have an impact on my thoughts here), and then only wearing it a few hours. I’m also wearing very small heels with mine, though. 🙂
First off, YOUR day, YOUR decision. Having said that, I’m not a fan of reception dresses. I loved my dress so much, I couldn’t imagine taking it off after such a short time! I was tiny, a size 2, and my dress was heavy. Sure, it was difficult going to the bathroom 😉 but overall, I don’t regret it for a second. I felt like a princess all night and my friends helped me when I needed it:) Now, I did change shoes at the reception. I had a tennis shoe that had a lift, similar to the heel I wore for the ceremony. I had them all blinged out and they were perfect! This was my first wedding – fast forward 10 years later to my second 😉 and I’m still not doing any type of change. I love my original dress and it’s staying on me:)
I think changing dresses is great!
When you fall in love with a gown, you don’t want to worry about whether it will be comfortable to dance in, or easy to pee in 🙂 so changing dresses at some point (whether it is after the ceremony, after dinner, or at the end of the night) allows you the freedom to pick the gown – not the logistics.
It can also help alleviate dress regrets. When you have two dresses, you don’t feel so tethered to the ONE gown, and as if you made this huge commitment to this ONE style. You are less likely to second guess your choice.
Lastly, I feel like many nay-sayers dislike the trend (or tradition! some cultures EXPECT you to have more than one dress) because it seems “showy” – as if you want to brag about your budget flexibility. While some brides do use it to show off, you are not one of them, so don’t worry about it!
Pick something you love, that is comfy. Maybe something that is the opposite of your ballgown?? show off those legs!! You can always stay in your gown, if you feel like it on the big day.
It’s definitely your wedding and completely up to you, but I’ve never personally understood the two dress thing. I paid a lot of money for my wedding dress–to only wear it for half the day and spend a lot of money on a second dress is completely baffling to me. Plus I love my dress and want to be in it for as long as possible.
I’m doing one just so I can wear different ty of dresses and have different dresses in my pictures! It’s up to you though; when you look back on your wedding you want to be able to say that you did what you wanted rather than following the opinions of strangers on this forum lol 😊 Congrats!!
I say do what ever makes you happy, and can afford. A big ball gown and a size O, I can imagine how difficult it would be to dance and move around in. Personally, between us, I love reception dresses, can’t wait to see what the bride changes into. And I wish that I had done one myself, was sweating bullets in 95 degree heat in the Domincan Republic. But I really couldn’t afford one, was on a tight budget. And as for shoes, they have all kinds of pretty flats or low-heels for brides now. Go for it! I even looked at prom dresses (cheaper than bridal) that came in white or ivory. I think that I agree with others that should keep your gown on for the pics (ie cake cutting, etc) and change for the dancing. Good luck!
I got a reception dress! Do what makes you happy bee! 🙂 Some people change 5 times, some don’t change at all, whatever works, you only get married once! No regrets!
I am in the same boat as you! i love love love my ball gown. It’s a ruffled, organza ballgown, and i am 5’3, 110lbs, this is a lot of dress for me. I never want to take it off, but I do want to enjoy the reception. I love to dance and don’t want to have to worry about this big heavy ball gown all night. I say, if you can afford it, go for it!
This is is my dress: I also have a 3 ring slip for underneath which is not on in this picture but I love the volume
It’s your day and your dress and your budget so it comes down to what you want. My budget was already so tight that I’m limited to what I can get for one dress (originally an ivory bridesmaid dress) and couldn’t imagine spending anything extra on another dress I’ll never wear again. But that’s why we’re all different and have different tastes 🙂 I finally found a dress I love that has everything I wanted for around $100. I decided to forgo dancing at the reception, other than a first dance (my dad doesnt dance well so I’m cutting that) and that way I’m saving money on a DJ and am cutting the entire reception in half (probably just cake and MAYBE finger foods… if that). But again it’s what YOU want and what YOU’RE paying for.
I was also debating whether I should get a second dress. My dress is big and puffy but it’s so pretty, so I want to spend as much time on it as possible.
But at the end, I decided to get a second dress because I will have to dance on it at the reception. My wedding dress comes with a long train so it would be very difficult to dance around on it. My second dress is also a ballroom style dress. It is navy and gold in colour, it hasn’t got any train and it’s a lot more lightweight, so it’s perfect!
we decided to push our first dance closer to the end of the reception so I can spend more time on my white dress.
I think you should do whatever makes you happy 🙂 it is YOUR night afterall.
windowlulu: You’ve waited your whole life planning out the perfect day and picking the perfect dress and then you only wear if for the ceremony and part of the reception?
I say wear one dress all night. Think about how much of your reception you will waist doing wardrobe changes and make up retouches. You’re gonna miss out on so much.
When my best friend got married she bought the reception dress and never even put it on. just think when are you ever gonna wear a ball gown again?
Oh and pick a shorter heel with back up flats.
hope that helps.
thosethreewords: thank you! i was a little worried that some of FI’s friends might say we were overspending – they had been quite rude about the ring but you know what, I don’t care anymore haha. X
linnaandwill: Thank you! I’m going to look into it when I get home! X
mjwedding326: tbh i haven’t waited my whole life planning out the perfect day haha. it’s more like, just the last 3 months haha!
i’m not planning on retouching my makeup either but for dancing and stuff I would really like to be more comfortable 🙂 but thanks for the advice on the shoes!
jfallon: i loved the dress hunting part of planning – so i’m all for looking for a second dress! let me know how you go with finding one as well hehe!
I couldn’t imagine not wearing my dress for as long as possible on the one day I can wear it and my dress is a lot like yours, it is not a ballgown but it is equally as difficult to get in and out of and moving around will be complicated.
I feel that a reception dress is a bad idea, after all, it would never compare to the wedding dress and it would be a real shame to only wear the wedding dress for a few hours, not only for sentimentality but you spend good money on a dress. Who would spend a few thousand on a dress and only wear it for an hour!?
With the heels issue, is wearing smaller heels or flats an option with your dress? That may be the way to go.
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