(Closed) Reception Enclosure Cards – Yay or Nay?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

“Please join us for drinks, dessert, and dancing following the ceremony.”

You said your ceremony is in the afternoon – what time does the reception end? You could also put that on there to indicate that it isn’t dinner.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

you can put cocktail reception or heavy hor d’oeuvres will be served. something along those lines.  

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@juliebean816:  Gotcha. I wouldn’t be so picky personally in the reading of it. If I saw cocktail reception I would assume there’d be some alcohol (wouldn’t be picky about what – i think beer and wine is fine) and some hor dourves and not a full meal.  But that’s just me.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I think the best way to let people know that there isn’t a full meal is by having the event occur at a non-meal time. 

I think 7:30 is cutting too close to meal time.  Traditionally in North America dinner is between 5-7.  Is there any flexibility in your timeline?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Tempting though it is to stuff little exta bits into your invitation, the most formal and elegant aesthetics adhere to the rule that “less is more” and “form follows function”. Reception cards date from the tradition of having a separate smaller “wedding breakfast” after the larger church ceremony. The cards for the wedding breakfast had to be separate, so that they could be slipped in with some invitations and not others. In contrast, the details of a general reception are included right on the main body of the invitation: either centered under the ceremony details if it is a major affair at a separate time and venue, or simply mentioned casually in the lower left corner of the invitation. Since your budget is a concern, why not forgo the cost of the extra card?

A nice general term for a non-meal that doesn’t imply cocktails — or, really, anything specific — is “refreshments”.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

“Cocktail party” usually sums it up… Just make sure you don’t put “dinner” or any words even close to it on there!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@andielovesj:  With regards to timing, I think you’re fine to serve apps until 8 and then people can go get dinner if they’re still hungry.

I agree that “Join us for hor d’oeuvres, drinks, and dancing” or something along those lines sounds perfect.  Personally, as long as there’s beer and wine and snacks, I would be super happy!

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