Post # 1
We are having a traditional Saturday wedding & reception. Our ceremony begins at 4 and the reception is immediately following at 5:30 with dinner at 6. We are having a full open bar (6 types of bottled beer, 6 wine selections, premium mixed drinks, and a cosmo/daquiri/margerita bar). The reception venue rental is for 5 hours, with the option to extend an extra hour for more $. Right now we have the venue schedule for 5:30-10:30 with a sparkler send off at 10:30. We will be 21 and 22, same with all our friends and we want a really fun party atmosphere but think ending it at 10:30 may kinda kill that vibe. There are plenty of bars around they can go to after and we figure we’ll be tired and want to head to the hotel at 10:30. We’re inviting 350 guests and want them to have fun/get up and dance, etc. It doesn’t help that the whole dance floor is surrounded by ceiling to floor glass windows all the way around and it doesn’t get dark in June until like 9 and everyone is so surprised to hear it’s ending so early. Do you think this will take away from the fun/party atmosphere or do you think I’m worrying too much?
Post # 3
@MrsN14: I’ll be honest: this would have been a deal-breaker for us. We like to party hard, as do our guests; we have a lot of parties and they’re usually still going at 2-3am, and don’t usually get going properly until about 10pm; the first couple hours are people talking and mingling, and drinking.
By the time people have eaten, there’s going to be just a couple hours to party, and I do think it’s going to seem short, and may end when it’s just started. If possible, I personally would try to extend it, but, that’s just me.
Post # 4
iduno, mine ends at 10:30, too. I am a little sad that it ends so early, but i also imagine i’ll be exhausted by then since we start getting hair/makeup done at 10:30 am. i guess i’ll find out soon :-p
Post # 5
@barbie86: I think this is a cultural thing. I haven’t been to a party that’s lasted until 2-3AM in a really long time, and those are typically college parties (we live in a college town).
@MrsN14: We have the same timeline. We’re 27/31 and ours ends at 10. We have the reception venue until 11. Yes, we want people to have a good time, but we have to be out by a certain time. All of our 21+ guests get free cover to the other bars the company owns (which is like 5 or 6) after the reception, so if people want to keep going, they are more than welcome to. I’m sure I’ll be dead tired by the end.
Post # 6
If you have the money, I would try to extend it. I extended mine and was happy I did. The night seemed to FLY BY
Post # 7
I was worried ours would end too soon too and ours ended at 10. We had the option to keep it going for an addl hour until 11 pm if we wanted but HONESTLY, 10 ended up being just perfect. However, we did have an after party at the bar in the hotel and some stayed there until 2-3 am.
Post # 8
@vorpalette: Possibly; Brits like to party, and drink. The parties I’m talking about are my parents parties, where the majority of guests are 50+ lol. I’ll never forget my dad driving back from Spain, and then going to his friend’s party and not getting back until 7am!!
However, once they’ve eaten, done the speeches etc, it’s going to be, what, 7pm? That leaves just 3.5 hours, and the OP said a lot of her guests are young, and like to party, and that people are surprised it’s finishing at 10.30pm. Given that, and the fact that the OP wants people to dance and have fun, I personally would pay the extra $ and extend for an extra hour.
Post # 9
@barbie86: Our guests do love to party hard, that’s kinda why I want to send them out to the bars instead of being responsible for them. Mostly my dads 6 siblings who are 45+ and their children lol We’re pretty lame tho and go to bed at 9:30 every night so I’m not sure I’ll be able to make it much longer lol!
@li612: I agree, my hair/make up starts at 8:30 and I feel like I’ll be exhausted by 10:30 lol
@vorpalette: Yeah we’re still in college and can no longer make it out past 12 lol our friends think we’re lame but we just can’t do it anymore lol I feel like the bars should be enough, they are right next door but I don’t want people to drive there, maybe I’ll give out taxi information or something.
Also we have to be out of the venue and have all decorations out by 12, so we could really only extend it by an hour if we did.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Organize an after-party where guests pay their own way at a local bar, and then you and your guy have the choice of joining too if you’re not too tired. Our friends like to stay up late and party (even though we’re 30+!), so going past 10:30 is a must-have for me – but you can accomplish this with an after-party.
Post # 11
We went to one that ended at about 10 PM with no warning… We were baffled, since there was no game plan for an afterparty and we were in a strange town. If we’d been warned, we would have made plans/looked into bars in the area that would be a good fit.
Ours will end at either 11:30 or midnight, depending on if we ante up for that last half hour. I went to a wedding in Italy (of an American and an Englishman) that ended at sunrise. Yes, sunRISE. It was a blast!
Post # 12
That seems like an average time for a reception to end. Ours will probably end around 10:30 too. I would suggest a bar for everyone to meet up at afterwards.
Post # 13
My reception went from 5:30 to 10, with a wine and cheese hour beforehand. I have been told on multiple occasions by people of all ages that it was the most fun they’d had at a wedding. I wouldn’t sweat it. Fun people make for a fun party, however long it is.
Post # 14
Our reception starts at the same time as yours but we are going until 1am, I just love dancing and so do my friends and family, the party wouldn’t even be getting started that early.
Post # 15
This was also an issue for us. My SO and I had our heart set on a particular venue but we just found out that we have to wrap up the party by 11:00. We both thought that that was a deal breaker but we decided to get my parents’ take on it in case we were being too rash, but they agreed immediately. As they said “The party will never really get started if things end that early.” So we’re going to book a venue that lets us stay until 1:00 am. Those extra 2 hours somehow makes a big difference to us.
Post # 16
I agree it is a cultural thing. Most weddings in my family are in the morning or early afternoon. I’ve only been to one evening family wedding and I think most people left by 9.