Post # 1
I am having a hard time figuring out what to do for our reception food. We are having a Destination Wedding in Florida (we live in Ohio). We are expecting around 85-95 people to attend. We are very much a fun couple as are our friends. We plan to have the DJ start playing dance music the second we walk in. There will be a cocktail hour while we are taking pictures but not a formal sit down & serve dinner. We have been to a couple Destination Wedding (in & out of country). At those weddings, they served heavy apps only – no formal dinner. We absolutely loved the atmosphere. We were set on doing this until our wedding coordinator really frowned upon it which obviously made us rethink things.
If you were a guest at a Destination Wedding, which would you prefer?
Heavy Apps Menu: ($30/person, buffet style)
Baked Charleston Cheese Spread wtih Roasted Red Peppers – with crackers
White Herb Marinated Gulf Shrimp
Almond Date Rumaki
Turkey & Strawberry Sandwich with Goat Cheese Mayo
Mini Sausage Blue Cheese Biscuits
Fresh Crudites wtih Pesto Ranch Dip
Italian Antipasta Kabob
Beef Tenderloin Bruschetta with Blue Cheese Cream & Chives
The app’s will be served for two hours (6pm-8pm) and our reception ends at 10:30pm. We will also be having an open alcohol bar.
Full Dinner Menu: Buffet Style ($30/person)
One salad: House salad with baby greens, tomatoes, cucumbers, carrots, mandarin oranges, crumbled feta & parmesan, dried cranberries, almonds, homemade crutons, & house dressing
One Side: we picked Garlic Mashed Potatoes. It would be $35/person if we added another side.
One Main Course: We picked Italian Panko Parmesan Crusted Chicken Breast with marinara
Bread: Assorted Rolls
We are worried that for $30/person there aren’t enough options with the full dinner menu. We think that there is more food & options with the heavy apps menu.
What do you think? Please do not comment on ettiquete of not having a full dinner being served. We are going for a more fun & laid back atmosphere. I am more concerned with the amount & variety of food being served. Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
Personally, I’d prefer the full dinner at that time slot. The choices seem more filling. Though, the lack of variety is kind of off-putting.
Can you ask your immediate families what their opinions are?
Post # 4
Do you know how many appetizers are being alloted per person? Just because there is more of a selection doesn’t mean that every guest is going to be given a big selection of each. Personally, for the time slot, I’d choose the dinner option.
Post # 5
I’m biased because you just so happened to pick some of my favorite foods for your full dinner menu, so that’s what I voted for. 🙂 However, you know your guests better than we do. Would they prefer more options or more of a traditional meal experience?
Post # 6
I like heavy apps as long as there is more than enouhg for people to fill up on. Notihng worse than being hungry at wedding while drinking/dancing.
Post # 7
I am just thinking, because of the time that it is all happening a full dinner might be best!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I think both menus sound delicious, so go with your gut – I’ve been to really fun receptions that were app-heavy, and great weddings where a full dinner was served. I think the most important thing is variety, and you did note that there’s only one main course option for the dinner. Most people do like parmesan chicken (I know very few meat-eaters who don’t eat chicken), but is there an option for vegetarians or those who don’t eat cheese? I LOVE the variety of the app menu that you listed, and it doesn’t sound too heavy, so if you want people to dance they might feel less full/bloated after eating that vs. mashed potatos and parm chicken. So I voted for the heavy apps, since it does sound like what you originally wanted (and what you’ve enjoyed at other people’s weddings!) – always go with your gut.
Post # 9
I agree, dinner is most appropriate.
Post # 10
@Miss Wallaby: Thank you!!! That is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! We are going to go with our gut and go with the heavy apps! Thanks!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@IUrebekah3RT: Glad to help!!
Post # 12
@Shosha1: They allot for approximately 4 pieces of EACH appetizer.
Post # 13
I don’t consider three things and a bread a “buffet” at all. If I went into Golden Corral or Taste of China and that was all the options they offered, I’d be pissed. High school cafeterias give you more options than that!
That’s why I’d go with the appetizers. Maybe pay a bit more so that people get more than four pieces total (because you want them to actually get full!) but the food choices sound much tastier and more diverse. Especially the turkey and strawberry sandwich. Omnomnomnom.
Post # 14
So, you’re having food served for 2 hours, the only alcohol for 2.5 hours more? I think that’s a recipe for disaster.
With the time of your reception, I would expect a full meal, and probably leave early to find a real meal if there were only 2 hours of appetizers.
Post # 15
I would rather have more options with heavy hors d’oeuvres than a limited dinner menu.
Post # 16
I voted dinner because I like the menu better, but if you had different apps I probably would have voted for the apps.