- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
First time poster. We did things a little differently in the fact that we just got married about a week and a half ago with just immediate family and our reception with all our family and friends is in just about 3 weeks. We just got back from our honeymoon really early this morning and even tho rsvp cards were due a couple days ago, we are missing quite a few! So we are trying to play catch up to see who will be coming. My husbands cousin has rsvpd for more than we were thinking her family would bring. Apparently, her husbands cousin and two kids are living with them and they want to bring them. In our five years together, I have seen these people a handful of times and have never even been introduced, up untill a month ago I had no idea who they even were, I had to ask on the side without sounding rude. Even my husband was unsure because we don’t see his side of the family that often. It’s not that we wouldn’t necessarily mind if they came, but they were not invited and they aren’t family. They are his cousins husbands cousins, not even the husbands sister or something. Confusing, I’m sorry. It just seems too much, we don’t know them. She has said they may come, but at our venue, we need definites. We have chosen a smaller venue to keep the guest list down and have tried to keep it just family and friends. We have to have our final headcount in in a few days and we are getting charged per adult and per kid, so if they end up not coming we have paid a lot per person and we don’t want that. Both my husband and I aren’t sure how to word our response back to her. We need them to be sure and we don’t necassarily mind if they come but they weren’t invited. How do you address those that aren’t invited?
I am sure some will think we are being rude but we really don’t mind if they come, it’s more so the principle that they were not invited and we discussed that we would never invite people to tagalong somewhere they weren’t invited and we need them to be sure, we can’t afford maybes. :-/