Post # 1
Obviously, I am a wedding virgin as this is going to be my one and only wedding. My fiance is in the Navy and has very few opinions on the wedding day, but wants to make sure that I have the time of my life. We’re planning a summer wedding for around 90 people with a reception/party to follow with heavy hors d’oeuvres, cake, and drinks to follow. We decided to have an evening wedding, but the hors d’oeuvres are going to be enough of a meal. Here’s my question:
We’re not really sure how to have toasts since we won’t exactly have tables. Do we just announce it to our guests? After the entrance of our bridal party and us, we don’t really know how to go on with the reception order after that…
Anyone have a good suggestion?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
for toasts, maybe the bridal party could start clinking their glasses to get people’s attention? will you have a microphone? that may help since when someone starts speaking, people will hear it. having a microphone might also help cue other events for the reception as well (like cake cutting, first dance if you’re having it, etc.).
i haven’t been to an hors d’oeuvres wedding (although i think they’re a fabulous idea), but i’m sure there is other advice out there!
Post # 4
Are you planning on having an music? A DJ? Typically a DJ would emcee the night, getting people’s attention for each change/event. If you aren’t, or if you are iPod DJing it yourself, I would ask a friend or family member who is a good clear speaker to coordinate stuff for you. Like just have them get on the mic and say “If I could have everyone’s attention, the Best Man would like to say a few words…” or something like that. He/She could lead the prayer, ask to have the bride and groom come over for the cake cutting, etc. If you have a friend do it, just make sure you give them a timeline for when you want each thing to happen so they can direct people’s attention.
Post # 5
Is there some type of stage or porch or something that you could stand on so all of the guests could see you? If everyone is standing then you might want to be higher up so guests can see you.
I know you said you won’t be having seats, but how long are you anticipaing the reception to last? Even if it is just appetizers and cake, as a guest I would still expect a seat! I know there probably wouldn’t be a seating chart, but I would like a place to rest my weary feet!
Post # 6
Well, we’re still having some tables and chairs for people to sit down. We understand not wanting to stand for that long. Our space has no stage or porch, just one flat room. We want to have toasts, but we haven’t really gotten a plan going for how to have them go down. Thanks for all your help, ladies!
Post # 7
Perhaps you can arrange the chairs/hors d’oeuvres tables in a circular pattern and have you, your FH and bridal party in the center? Your bridal party can use little bells/party whistles/clappers to garner attention and you and the FH can proceed with a toast.
Congrats from one soon-to-be-a-mrs-sailor to another 😉
Post # 8
After the wedding party was introduced and then us as the Mr. and Mrs., we took our place at the front of the room. My Maid/Matron of Honor had a mike and just started the toast. Everyonewas watching us make our way to the front of the room and were expecting something since we had toasts in our wedding program.