(Closed) Reception help! Booze or not to booze

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

#1 – Makes no sense because the people coming at night wouldn’t see you married! Plus night invites would be confused that morning invites had already been there for so long, morning invites would be offended that their invite ends at a time when others are being invited to stay later. Plus 2 sets of invites/RSVPs would be a nightmare.

#2 – If you’re doing a late night event (which it would have to be if you’re not serving an actual meal) not having booze would seem a bit odd, I think guests would expect it.

#3 – I wouldn’t, like #1 this sounds incredibly complicated and like a ton of extra work and money.

#4 – I don’t get it…like two different buildings? Huh?

#5 – Seems like the easiest option, if people don’t want to drink that’s fine but I don’t understand why the person next to them having beer or wine should offend them, not like it’s hard liquor, they serve wine in church for goodness sake.


What if you picked a venue that had an indoor and outdoor area? Then you could put a bar outside so people could hang out there and drink then come back in to dance, and the non-drinkers could stay inside with the dance floor and stuff? Although I still prefer #5.

Post # 5
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

All of those but #5 seem very confusing.  I think that it would actually create more problems because you’ll be inviting some people to certain parts of the event and others to different parts. That might lead to people getting offended and hurt feelings.

 Are you planning to drink?  If so, I think you should just have one event and offer beer and wine.  Unless you are inviting people who have real drinking problems and can’t be around it, I don’t see why anyone should be that offended by the presence of alcohol.  (And if they are, it’s YOUR wedding, not theirs.  They can suck it up for your day.)  Do they avoid restaurants and other public places just because there is alcohol there?  Isn’t this the same kind of situation? Is the issue more about being around very drunk people than the drinking itself?  If that’s the case maybe you could limit the number of drinks per guest.  Or just have a cocktail hour or limit the amount of time you are serving drinks?  That way, some people get to drink if they want, but they will be limited so they can’t get completely intoxicated and obnoxious if that is the fear of your other guests.

If you and your Fiance don’t drink, I think it’s perfectly acceptable to have a dry wedding.  Remember it’s your wedding, and while it’s important to consider your guests’ experience, you can’t make everyone happy so you have to do what is best for the majority and for you.

Post # 6
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It seems to me that your best choice, since it’s the one you like best, is going to be just doing a wine and beer only reception. I don’t drink really at all but I don’t think I’d be offended if the person sitting next to me was drinking. 

What I would do is keep the alcohol choices limited and offer some fun nonalcoholic drinks to your guests who choose not to imbibe. 

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont drink so at the min we would provide beer and wine for guests but if it was me i would also add a few signature mocktails (non alcoholic margarita or lemonade are my favs) on display (i have a big glass drink dispenser im always using at get togethers)

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