(Closed) Reception invitation wording

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
17 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I highly recommend reading:

Crane’s Wedding Blue Book


It details answers to this type of question and many more that are bound to come up.  Given that you have a somewhat unusual plan it is all the more important to get these details correct.

Quoting from my copy of the book, in the section titled “Late Receptions.”



Wedding receptions take place on the day of the wedding.  Any reception occuring after that date is not properly referred to as a wedding reception.  Rather, it is a party or reception in honor of the recently married copule. 

The book goes on to provide example wording:


Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Jay Forrester

request the pleasure of your company

at a dinner reception

in honor of

Mr. and Mrs. Nicholas Jude Strickland

Saturday, the twentieth of September

at seven o’clock

Sleepy Hollow Country Club

Scarborough, New York


Appparently, the key phrase is the “in honor of,” followed on a separate line with the names of the couple.


Hope that helps!

Post # 4
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

As above answered the first part of your question, but in general I would avoid any mention of gifts at all.  Gifts are never “expected” and a good host doesn’t dictate to her guests, so the mention of them even if it’s saying not to bring them.


Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

To be honest, I think that your original wording is perfect. It’s formal enough, but it also gives all the information guests might need. As for the part about gifts, I don’t think I’ve ever seen an invitation that didn’t include information on gifts! I’m not aware of any specific rule of etiquette that states that gift information shouldn’t be included in the invite.

Post # 7
1227 posts
Bumble bee

@alabamabee369:  How about using the more formal “luncheon” instead of “lunch reception”?

Post # 8
17 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would skip the actual ceremony date and location as it is just confusing to guests.  Why tell them when/where if they are specifically not invited?

Post # 9
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i don’t think that i would mention anything about gifts on the invitation.  if someone wants to bring you something small, let them.

i agree with pp.  having the ceremony date too will be a bit confusing for guests.  just have the date and time of the reception that the guests will be invited to.

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