(Closed) Reception Invitations – Need Help!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13012 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you need RSVPs, you’ll have to send them out with a response date before you leave for OBX. 

You need to tell your guests there’s a cash bar.  “A Cash Bar will be Available” or something along those lines. 

I would not send a traditional wedding invitation with RSVP cards, because that looks like you’re inviting them to the wedding, and may get confusing. 

ETA: Is the wedding date in your heading (august 2013) accurate?  If so, you’re way too early for invitations!

Post # 5
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The wording and Look of the Invitation will set the tone for the type of the event you plan to have (so planning ahead is a good thing, because you want to get this right the first time)

As you’ll be married by the time the Back Home Reception happens, if your Parents are hosting it would say most formally… (as per Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette* book)

Mr. and Mrs. Wayne Matteis

request the pleasure of your company

at a reception

in honour of

Mr. and Mrs. Scott Nelson


If it is you as the Married Couple throwing the Back Home Reception then the wording would be…

The pleasure of your company

is requested

at a reception to celebrate the recent marriage of

Mr. and Mrs. Scott Nelson


IF you plan to do a Vow Renewal at the event, then the formality of the Invite, would more follow along the lines of a Wedding Invitation (ie The Honour of your presence)

The more formal the event, then the more the Invitiations have to reflect that (the wording above is for the most formal of situations… if it was very casual, it could say…

Mr. & Mrs. Scott Nelson

Request the pleasure of your company

at a reception to celebrate their recent marriage


If your Back Home Reception is to be particularly casual (say a backyard BBQ) then you could do anything from a nicely printed invite, thru to just calling everyone up on the phone.

Personally, I am in pretty much the same boat as you.

We are doing an Elopement to a Destination Wedding (just the 2 of us for a Beach Wedding), and a Back Home Reception afterwards in a Hall.  Minimum will be an Afternoon Get-together with Friends & Family with Champagne & Cake… top end would be an Evening Get-together with Cocktails & Nibbles added in and perhaps a DJ & Dancing (we are still working out the details)

The nice thing about this, is there are no hard and fast rules.  You can make your Back Home Reception as Formal or Casual as you like… as BIG as a Reception or just a small Party / Get-together for family.  If you want it really small and casual, you can also just host an “Open House”. 

If it has the look or feel of a Reception, then you do have the ability to make it as wedding-like as you are comfortable with if you had a Wedding away.  That includes Decorating the Venue, Wedding Dress, Flowers, Garter & Bouquet Toss… whatever, including Vow Renewal if you want.

Hope this info helps,




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