(Closed) Reception is cancelled… (sorry long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

you are amazing for being so positive about the situation. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I am so sorry Pug! All I can say is with a limited budget you can still have an awesome time, this will be the most amazing day of your life if you want it to be and if you need any help from us bees we’ll be gald to be here for you.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can you afford to still serve cupcakes with cute pug pictures at the ceremony- sort of a drinks and cupcakes meet n greet afterward? Or could you bring them with you to the restaurant where you want to take guests? Do you own pugs? Maybe make them ring bearers/flower girls?! how cute would they look walking down the aisle all dressed up! Or, you could incorporate pictures of pugs on your programs.

 

I am sorry this happened to you! What a shock- and so close to the wedding! I am glad you are trying to see the bright side. Maybe you can have TWO first dances- one at each of the back yard BBQs?! Things like that cost nothing and will have so much meaning for you.

 

good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh, big hugs. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds like a whacko, although i’m sure you know that. If it helps, I think you’re making a very mature and smart decision by scaling back. To make it pug related, you can, of course, have your pugs there =]. And i think you can still do cake–just get a big sheet cake! A half sheet is like $30 and feeds $40. You can still use the toppers. And as far as a first dance, i don’t see why you can’t dance to music in your backyard. (PS i think Buca is nice for famiy and close friends–that place is so yummy and fun!). You can do cake and punch in your backyard…appetziers maybe, nothing major! But something still memorable, ya know?

By the way i can’t wait to try your chocolate mint brownies. They look divine and of course, are my favorite flavor

Look at it this way–you’re just restructuring the wedding. You can have a new dream wedding. It’ll be sad at first, but you’ll find stuff to be psyched about.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m so sorry you have to change your plans!!!!  It’s hard to give something up when you are so close to the wedding and have been planning it for so long.

Honestly, if I had a choice, I would love to have a big backyard party.  I think it can be so much more enjoyable because you can do away with all the formality and actually spend time with people!!!  But I don’t think you have to give up the things you really want.  You can still have your first dance…your pug toppers on cupcakes you make….When you have your backyard parties you can still incorporate those reception elements into your party. 

A friend of mine got engaged and married within 3 weeks this summer (long unrelated story, but it was totally right for her).  I saw her pictures of her tiny party with her family, and they had their first dance in her famiy’s living room, toasted with their own wine glasses, cut a cake she and her mum made.  I think it was a really special moment for her and her family to welcome her husband into the family in such an intimate way.  So I hope you can find a way to still do the things you love in a super cheap way.  hugs!!!! (and by the way…i love your pug pic!!)

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Great outlook, Pug!! Sounds like your “new” wedding is going to be so much fun.  And so glad you’re getting over her drama, and won’t accept any $.  Sometimes things are better left alone, and no more guilt. Can’t wait to hear more about your homegrown reception!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@kj: I’m so sorry! Frown I hate that this is happening to you, but just like everyone else has said, I think you can turn these backyard parties into small little receptions and still have a fabulous time!!! And you’ll end up with 2 receptions instead of 1!!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@kjpugs – I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this!  If it’s any consolation, during the planning I was looking forward to the reception the most.  Of course the ceremony would be wonderful, but who am I kidding, I really wanted to boogie down all night with my friends and family.  Turns out, right after we walked up the aisle after being pronounced husband and wife I was totally satisfied and didn’t even need the reception.  I think my actual thought was, “wow, it could be over now and I would be perfectly happy.  I don’t need anything else, that was worth everything.”  So don’t get too down about losing your reception.  Your day will still be incredible.  Also, we had a glorified backyard party for our reception and it was fantastic.  (The chocolate raspberry sheetcake was demolished.)  I think you’ll really fall in love with the idea.  There’s definitely still a lot of potential. 

(By the way, you’ve had an amazing attitude about this.  Well done!) 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

Oh KJPugs, I’m so sorry!  You’re grace and positive outlook is what will make your wedding day spectacular. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yay you sound better already! i think you can definitely buy you and your SO a nice, shiny new “gift” yourselves since you’re going under negative budget, lol.

OOoo you can string up lots of white lights in the backyard (buy them day after Christmas…seriously, that would be SO CHEAP), have a few pitchers of sangria and margaritas (easy/cheap to make in bulk) or even a keg ($100 for 250 servings of beer if your family is into beer like ours is). And, you can dress up a few things–like a few really great decorations (things hanging from trees, etc) for your photographer to take detail shots of…so that in an album (if you make one), your event actually looks chicer than “just” a backyard bbq. I’m always amazed at how nice some weddings look, even if the venues were less than desirable, ya know what I mean? Not saying backyards are tacky by any means, just that you can be picky-choosy about what kinds of pictures you have so that it portrays your wedding in the best possible light. So it doesn’t LOOK budgety, ya know? (all i’m thinking of is a cousin’s wedding that was in this ugly, awful, hideous hall and from the photos, you wouldn’t even know it…)

You can set up games in the backyard–like horshoe, exactly! Stuff like that’s fun–we set up a volleyball and racquetball net in FMIL’s backyard and it was a blast.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I’m so sorry this happened to you! I read your blog and you had some really great ideas for the reception. I am so impressed and inspired by your positive attitude and your focus on what matters most. Hope the new wedding comes together and you have an awesome time with your closest guests.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@KJPugs, if your SO likes cream cheese, a nice sweet, buttery cream cheese might be a nice filling instead of peanut butter….mmmm mint. Or you could flavor the cream cheese with raspberry extract, too. Raspberry-chocolate brownies.

Shoot, put your pug toppers on top of THOSE bad boys =]. Gourmet brownie trays….mmmm

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