(Closed) Reception issues…advice?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sounds to me like you don’t particularly even want to have a wedding reception at all. If you don’t want to waste your money on having a reception than do a courthouse wedding and save that money for your future, house, kids, etc. Seems you’re not at all into planning it already and you’re this far out, so it’s not going to get any more fun for you if you’re going into it with the attitude that it is all for other people and not at all for you. Wedding planning, though stressful at times, should be fun for you for the most part, so if it’s not something you want to do and you know that already than why waste that money and drive yourself crazy. As you said, you think that a wedding reception is a societal standard – so break the mold, then, and don’t have one. If the ceremony is all you care about, then just do that.

Post # 4
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It’s your day and you’re certainly entitled to do what you wish. However, while you are the bride, you are also the hostess and your job that day is to make sure the guests that have assembled to celebrate with you, and have presumably given you gifts, are well taken care of, comfortable and happy as well.

Music is nice, even if it’s background instrumental. You absolutely don’t have to do the garter thing or the bouquet toss. There are generally toasts at the wedding reception.  People eat. Photographs are taken. You mingle and talk to everyone, thank them for coming. 

Post # 5
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with Kittyachi…seems like you’re just not into it.  Wedding planning is definitely stressful but it’s fun too.  I’m sure you could do a reception on your budget, but it sorta seems like you don’t really want to…

Post # 6
1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The reception is a celebration so most of the time people eat, drink and be merry.  Whether ‘be merry’ consists of good conversation, dancing, games, or whatever is up to you.  I agree that there are a lot of ways to throw money away when planning a wedding.  However, there’s a lot of ways to get around that.  There’s a lot more backyard or potluck weddings going on so don’t feel like you have to rent out a hotel ballroom or what not….it’s just what some people do.  But if you want to celebrate with friends and family you usually provide them with some level of comfort (food and drink and chairs) and that costs money. 

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re not doing the whole dancing, garter/bouquet toss, cake cutting thing. we’re just going to do a dinner, it’s at a b&b, very laid back.

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009


Based on what you’ve said, I see you guys in a park with your 60 guests. A very meaningful ceremony. About 2:00 pm. Followed by cake and punch, horseshoes, hula hoops, lawn chairs, and soap bubbles. With an ipod/boombox. Over by 5:00.

I went to a wedding exactly like that description, and it still stands as the best wedding I’ve ever been to. And I think the whole thing cost the couple $500 max.

Post # 10
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think a cocktail hour reception with munchies sounds like the fit for you guys. Don’t let anyone else BMs, family or in-laws tell you otherwise! Do what you want to do!

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