- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I’ve decided to have a small, immediate family only ceremony in my hometown… I have a MASSIVE family, and just the parents, grandparents, and brothers/sisters bring our ceremony total to 18!!! The Fiance is foreign and immigrating to the USA about a month before our wedding, and so we decided the ceremony should be an intimate affair… I don’t want him to have to meet the 80+ members of my extended family on what should be the most important/special/intimate day of our lives! It’s going to be a classy, very sweet little event in a gorgeous state park… our colors are ivory, gold, and bronze… perfect, In My Humble Opinion, for a fall wedding!
The problem is my dear hometown is a whopping 3 hour drive from where the rest of my extended family lives… and so we made the decision to have the reception two days later on a Saturday so that my entire family could celebrate with us! Sounded like a good idea at the time…
We’re planning to have the reception at my father’s ranch, because essentially… the Fiance and I both just finished grad school, and we’re fairly broke. My dad’s house is fairly nice, lots of beautiful flowers, plenty of room for parking (being in the MN countryside!), and even a large modern-style barn with a full bar! The problem now…
My stepmother has decided, just 10 weeks before the wedding, that she doesn’t really want all those people on her property. She’s making my dad rent a Porta-Potty because she doesn’t want people going in and out of her house to use the restroom. And further, she doesn’t want to be held liable if someone were to drink and drive and hurt themselves/others that night (which is a legitimate concern)… and so she’s said NO ALCOHOL at the reception unless people bring it themselves!!??!
I thought about asking a relative to host it at their home, but my Grandma already said, “Nooooooooo way,” and I feel weird and tacky even asking an aunt or uncle to have a huge party at their house.
My only alternative (I think) is to have the reception at a nearby campground with a big shelter and covered picnic area. It’s cheap, close to home, has outhouses but they’re really well-maintained and clean/not smelly, and definitely has room for all our guests. Hell, we could invite TWICE the amount of people if we have it there! My problem is this… and it might seem silly… but I don’t want to have it there because we had my (and my brother’s) high school graduation parties there just 4 and 5 years ago.
I just don’t feel like the ol’ family campground is formal enough for my wedding reception. Plus, I’ve got a couple memories in that place (mostly related to stupid drunken teenager years) that make me feel less than a blushing bride… if you know what I mean…
I just wanted to have a nice party with pretty tablecloths and lots of lovely flowers in a nice place… I was even thinking about wearing my wedding dress (it’s tea length) to the reception, because my Mom thought people might like to see what I wore to my wedding…
If we have the reception at the campground, there is no way I can wear my beautiful ivory dress. It’s not a nice clothes sort of place. There’s dirt, mosquitos, and camp fire smoke. My heart is breaking… and I’m completely out of ideas! We can’t afford to rent a venue, especially after splurging a bit on the classy ceremony.
I just want my reception to SORT OF match my wedding… am I being a whinny, whimpy bridezilla? Moreover, all the people in my family love to drink/dance/be merry, and would feel pretty offended if we told them they had to bring their own booze or not drink at all.
Does anyone have ANY suggestions/advice for me???